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Extreme stress in pregnancy and comment from midwife

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Jdy · 04/08/2022 13:33

midwife has said that stress in pregnancy can cause adhd, behavioural problems or autism and that although there’s no masses of research these are possible.

it is an understatement to say I’ve been stressed. I am under extreme emotional distress, stomach in knots each day, diarrhoea often, heart pounding. Not all the time but a lot of each day. I’m slowly trying to manage it but it’s largely wound in my husband walking out and having got another woman pregnant. It’s not something I can switch off and to be honest these worries are now making it even worse! Did anyone have extreme stress and things were ok? I already had anxiety before all this.

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feellikemyselfagain · 04/08/2022 20:43

@Jdy
Your midwife should not have said any of that to you. She deserves to be reprimanded for essentially forcing her own opinions on to you. You'll find support for pretty much anything if you Google it so please try not to Google things. I'm so sorry that you're experiencing such a lot of stress and worry. Great to hear you've been having counselling. It'd be great if you would be able to get a different midwife as it sounds like yours will keep spouting unnecessary crap if she's not met with resistance somehow! All the best to you and your baby. They'll be just fine, you'll see x

zmq3Zm96uijcs2c · 04/08/2022 21:51

I’m sorry you are having a rough time and also that you had this to deal with.

As it is unethical to experiment on those who are pregnant or labouring any correlation would have to be anecdotally provided. Correlation is not causation in any case.

If you have it in you I’d request to have her removed from your care and I’d tell head of midwifery why. It is understandable if you don’t feel up to doing this atm. I know of an A&E consultant who refers to them as “mad wives” - your experience shows they might be onto something!

My one and only pregnancy was one long mental health crisis and, so far, DS is smashing all his milestones.

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