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Drugs

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Richardbc · 04/08/2022 07:46

Apologies if this is a little long winded. A close friend of mine of the past couple of years is starting a spiral into drugs and booze, drugs are lsd, mushroom and weed, possibly coke.

For background we briefly dated but are now good friends. I'm not sure if it's my place to say something but I fear she could spiral out of control.

For background as a child she was very much unloved and was abused by her dad, she has had an on off relationship with her mum, but she was not a loving Mum and now she doesn't speak to any of her family. In her 20s she went off the rails big time, drink, drugs, sex with different men most nights. But in her late 20s she got clean and set up a healthy lifestyle coaching business. She built up a really successful business and this is where we met at a foodie talk.

We briefly dated but we were not right for each other but we are very close friends. Since then she has had two very abusive relationship

This year she was lucky enough to inherit a near 7 figure sum from her grandmother. Amazing for anyone. Thing is she is blowing it all. She has closed her business and is basically spending it partying around the world. She has told me she is back on the booze so much so she is ill most nights and she is sleeping around, she went back with three guys the other night. To much info shared.

She has also told me she is taking LSD regularly but in controlled small amounts what ever that means and also smoking weed most days and taking mushroom as they help with her mood. I think she might also be on coke.

It seems the money is leading her down a path of distruction again, and she is going to loose the business she built up. I just can't help think this goes back to her childhood days as she is always saying no one loves her and she just wants to be cared for.

I don't know how to support her, she never uses drugs around me as she knows I hate them. But I'm worried this wonderful human is destroying herself.

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MaxOverTheMoon · 04/08/2022 08:08

You can't support her by doing anything. She's on a path of self destruction and the only person who can help her sadly is herself. Put some boundaries in place between you both so you don't get more caught up with her decisions (amd they are Her decisions).

Still be her friend, just don't get caught up rescuing her. You won't be able to, no one can help her but herself.

yellowsmileyface · 04/08/2022 11:03

she is taking LSD regularly but in controlled small amounts what ever that means

She's microdosing. This article may give you some understanding of the what and the why.

www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/microdosing

Little research has been done but many people have reported it improving their mental health, which is probably why she's doing it. However it also has the potential to worsen her mental health, and heavy drinking alongside microdosing would definitely counter any positive effects.

LSD and mushrooms are an odd drug of choice for someone who's in a self destructive place. The good news is they're not really physically harmful. The bad news is they can really mess with your head. They're really not drugs to be taken regularly. She could end up experiencing drug induced psychosis, especially if she has underlying unresolved trauma, and as I said mixing it with alcohol is particularly dangerous.

You could try talking to her about your concerns regarding the drugs, but she'll likely get very defensive about it. Her childhood trauma is the crux of the issue, and what she's doing is self medicating. Perhaps it would be better to encourage her to seek support for that? Ultimately though, there's not much you can do if she's doesn't want to help herself.

Richardbc · 04/08/2022 13:17

Thanks interesting read.

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alwaysmovingforwards · 04/08/2022 23:37

I'd be tempted to take an adult gap year and join her, sounds fun lol 😂

Joking!

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