To think women’s choices are so much harder than men’s?

[Musinfsl]

Maybe im late to the party here but as a career woman I have felt this more and more as I’ve got older. The pressure to perform even better than males if you want the same title. The expectation that you do all childcare. The lack of equal pay. The fact men can leave a child’s life and not pay even after being chased by a half hearted service. It goes on.

Im feeling the brunt of it all right now as a lone parent when ex left and I’ve been left to deal with it all. No explanation as to why he needn’t do that too - just entitlement I suppose.

I know what you mean in a way, but I guess if you assume you work hard, do your best on full hours, maximise income and never rely on a man, it doesn't really make much difference. Being a single parent makes choices easier.

I decide on schools - ex can't be bothered to do the research.
DS does the weekend activities he asks to do. No pressure from ex to play football etc because he can't be bothered to take him.
I decide on diet, clothes, home.
I decide on holiday destinations and activities

Ex may not be around to bear half the load but on the other hand there is no endless negotiation. And strangely, being a lone parent is much less expensive, because there's no alcohol in the weekly shop, no insistence on eating meat twice a day, no sky sport, no endless changing of cars, no oneupmanship over holidays.

I am lucky my ex pays half my ds' costs.

He didn't for the first two years and it was tight, until I found some 'leverage'. 😊

@MintJulia what leverage?! :) mine has made me apply rather than discussing but j get 650 a month which is ok.

I know more about his financial circumstances than he would like to have shared with other people. So I remain discreet and he doesn't argue about shared costs.