I’m just looking for words of wisdom and to vent really. Hoping there’s women on here that can just, I don’t know really listen or give me a kick.
a while ago I found out my Partner of 12 years ( I’m 29, his 32) had an only fans account. Just by luck really, I listened to a podcast and thought I’d try out his email address low and behold the email pops up on his Home Screen re forgotten password.
( I didn’t confront him about this)
anyway fast forward to yesterday, I turned on his old phone ( rightly or wrongly) I headed straight for his search history, and there it was months of looking at Adult work, Adult friend finder, escorts and so on.
I also had a look at his app history of all downloaded apps, all the way back until 2012 multiple downloads of pretty much hook up apps.
i’m heartbroken, and sitting on all of this atm. We have a child together, we live together and all that. Of course he’ll do what Everyman does when I confront him and try to spin it about me looking through his phone, I’m not scared or worried about being single I know I’ll manage. But it’s the initial raising the conversation, half of me is debating about continuing to sit on it but what good will that do. ( part from his re doing my kitchen atm and I need that finished) all jokes aside I am completely devastated, I just don’t even know how to approach the subject, I really wish I was one of them Women could fly off the handle right away, but it’s just not in my nature.
i hope someone can give me some words of advice, I have really good friends but just not what I want to share with them currently as I feel so embarrassed.
thank you x