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polkadot353 · 02/08/2022 22:43

Myself and OH have been together 8 years. We have a DS 4 and DD 4mos. I'm on the cusp of leaving him and just want to vent here and hear others opinions.

OH is completely useless around the house. We both work full time (currently I'm on mat leave but I will be returning)

He does not cook nor clean, and he doesn't know how. He literally wouldn't know how to make a meal or what products to use to even clean a house. Let me note here we are both mid 30s. I'm so fed up with him. I feel so taken forgranted and I've told him this a hundred times but he just says he will help out more around the house and never does. Everything the kids need is down to me. Clothes, lunches, etc he never gets involved in anything the kids need.

Another issue really bothering me lately is that we have talked a lot about marriage and still no proposal. I know he can afford a ring and he insists he wants to get married and anytime I bring it up he says he will marry me "soon" but its been 8 years and there's still no sign of it.

I moved to his town and we have a mortgage together. The kids have preschool/nursery places here for the upcoming school term. If I was to leave him but I don't have anywhere to go nor can I afford to move in somewhere else while on mat leave.

I'm really at a loss here and completely miserable. He knows I'm unhappy and he knows exactly why but he does nothing to change it.

OP posts:
JulyDreams · 02/08/2022 22:43

Leave. He won't change.

Aprilx · 03/08/2022 07:38

You have one useless man child there. I don’t believe for a minute that he doesn’t know how to clean or cook, he just doesn’t want to. Nobody needs to learn how to clean, we can all do the basics intuitively.

That said, I had to sign at you waiting for a proposal, if you have discussed marriage then for goodness sake why do you need a proposal? You can just get on with it, although in this case, I would suggest taking a pass anyway.

You are not going to find happiness in this relationship, so you have to sit down and work your way through the finances with him.

Aprilx · 03/08/2022 07:38

*sigh not sign

Watchkeys · 03/08/2022 08:56

Why would you stay with a partner who doesn't pull their weight, lies about it, won't commit to you, and doesn't care about your feelings?

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