Bored in a relationship

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Quite plain, I am bored in my 5 year relationship. I don't want to split up but I am finding myself fantasing about other people. I thought about taking a break but worry this would ruin us and would end in us breaking up. Is this normal for a long term relationship?

If someone asked me to "take a break" after being with them 5 years I would probably end the relationship.

@AryaStarkWolf can I ask why you would end it? I do not mean take a break so I can run off and sleep with every man I see. I just mean take some time apart so I can remember what it is that made the relationship so exciting and worthwhile in the first place

^^ this , if a partner wanted to take a relationship break after 5 years, I would tell her to not bother coming back as it’s clearly run it’s course.

Because 5 years is no time, if you can't remember why you wanted to be that person after a relatively short amount of time as that then what's the point. Not to mention how shitty it would make your partner feel when presumably they think everything is fine? In your partners shoes I would feel messed around and powerless so I'd take the power back and just walk away

Why don't you want to split up? It's fine and normal to end a relationship because you're bored stupid by it. If you really want to get past the boredom and make it last, then the answer is to recommit to it and do whatever work is necessary as a couple to make it exciting again, not to "take a break" (which like PP I would interpret as breaking up properly).

Actually I have just noticed your other thread, are you really bored with with this relationship/ partner or do you really have feelings for another, is that driving the break ?
either way it’s probably over, sorry.