Has anyone experienced a kind of sexual awakening or realisation?

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Been with DH since college, only sexual partner. Sex has always been just okay (on occasion it's been good) but it was always something that I could have gone without, felt a bit like just something I had to do. I always would have much rather had a cuddle instead 😂 I always thought I just wasn't that sexual a person! Until recently. I seem to have pretty strong chemistry with someone else and it's thrown me a bit as I'm not sure I've ever had those feelings before! I'm mid 30s too! Nothing has happened but I've thought about him a lot in that way. DH wants to be a bit more experimental in the bedroom but whenever he mentions this I feel a bit weird. And I think I'm realising that sex between us hasn't always felt "right" I don't think. There's love there but on my part, no sexual desire. And now I've had some experience of these feelings (I'm well aware they could be false and the reality could be crap 😅) it's like I can't get it out of my head!
Anyone else experienced this? I feel like maybe there's a more sexual side to me that I've never properly discovered before!

Yes - happened to me as my marriage to ExH was ending. I was 40 and had been pretty much sexless for years. Hit me like an absolute ton of bricks and got quickly out of control and ruined my life for a bit! Now I'm much more settled and confident with my new partner and have a good balance between cuddles and a bit of spice.

Yes left my abusive husband when I was 36 after 10 years of terrible sex life. I was convinced I didnt like it.
Nope I had just missed out on really good, fun sex with a partner who respected me. It was amazing, gave me confide nce too.

Yep.
I thought I wasn't really keen on sex. Married young, childhood sweethearts etc and had a perfectly ok marriage for years but it became sexless when we were in our 20s!

We eventually split and I was busy working, raising our dcs etc when boom, my now dh strolled into my life!
Turns out I love sex. I'd just been doing it with the wrong person 😂
Have been with dh for nearly 15 years now and we're still going strong, I often think about how different my life would have been if I'd spent it with my ex.

This is so interesting and I wonder if I'm in a very similar situation to you with your first husband. I was never really bothered about it before (although knew in the back of my mind the total lack of interest from my side wasn't right) but now it's like I have a strong urge to explore that side!

Was the lack of interest in sex in your first marriage on both sides? My DH still very much wants to and I think it's probably very unfair on him that I can't give him that.

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Definitely more on my side. I honestly thought I wasn't interested.
He was a sweet man and it was a mostly ok marriage. I'm sure many would have stayed.

What eventually caused you to split? I feel very much the same

Yes, this is normally how affairs start depending on if you can handle it and someone who doesn't feel guilt for being selfish.

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We split because we both felt it had run its course. Very amicable and a mutual decision.
We were young and living like house mates that had grown apart, different interests etc
We both felt we needed to be brave and separate while we were young!

I can see how that would happen and it's not something I'd want to get involved in at all

Ah that's good, the best outcome really if both were on the same page. Easier for all involved too.