I’ve been with my partner a few months. Going swimmingly so far, however we’re obviously still in the honeymoon phase. However, what I’ve discovered is she’s very very active. Way more than me (and I wouldn’t even call myself a coach potato!)
For example, with her ex, they didn’t just paint their home and do the usual basic DIY. They built a staircase themselves. Did all their plumbing themselves. The only thing she said she’d get someone in for is electrics.
She hasn’t just done a park run and visits the gym (me). She’s done the London Marathon four times, and the three peaks challenge, various other extreme events and is considering a triathlon.
She hasn’t just done the odd walking holiday. Pretty much every holiday with her ex involved trekking miles.
She isn’t learning to play an instrument. She’s learning to play five.
Etc, etc.
I find this inspiring, however it’s started to make me think I’m not going to be able to (or feel inclined) to keep up. I’m just not that gung-ho a person. I know that makes me lazy - but as I said, it’s not like I don’t do things, just not to her extreme. She left her ex because of emotional issues - okay I’m better in that regard but I’m now thinking there must be plenty of “active” guys who are great blokes also.
She’s told me so long as I’m showing a bit if willing and have a general curiosity about life it’s not an issue. But I can’t help feel, once the honeymoon’s worn off, that she’ll lose respect for me or see other guys who do all this stuff too and feel how great it would be to be with someone with similar drive.
Anyone who’s with someone similar - or a similar personality - able to give a perspective?