Struggling to cope

[ArtemisFlop]

Long term relationship ended almost 1 year ago, DH had affair and was dishonest even when found out, 2 children, petitioned for divorce but nothing happening. He's been insensitive and unkind and financially exploitative. Recently had them for a sleepover and they woke up to find his affair partner had turned up in the middle of the night and was sleeping there. Older one now really
ill. Second consecutive night I can't sleep. I'm burnt out and exhausted. He's got no money and not contributing anything. He's rude and disrespectful to me. I'm struggling to manage work and domestic load. Few friends (break up has meant I found out a lot of my friendships through school/kids etc. we're fragile/superficial) and little time or capacity to make new ones. I'd call the Samaritans again only I don't have the energy to speak/cry anymore. Sometimes I just feeling like giving up/giving in.

So sorry op, different circumstances but I understand what it feels like to feel like giving up. My dc keep me going, hopefully someone else will be along with some advice but for now here's a hand hold

I was struggling after my husband left and found antidepressants from my gp really helped. For sleeping Nytol herbal tablets are good at knocking me out. It’s hard, really hard, and I’m sure you’re doing amazingly. Don’t worry about the domestic stuff, just focus on complete basics like getting everyone fed.

Thanks; Nytol sounds worth a try. My DC keep me going too. They've been the only reason I've held on at some points.

This will pass and you will get more meh at your ex. Mine has very little to do with the kids and also contributes very little financially. At the beginning I basically worked and slept. Went to bed when the kids did I needed the rest for a long time. I too took antidepressants. And also sought counselling. The pandemic hit which helped as couldn't go anywhere then so had a period of time I had to do very little. be kind to yourself and just do what needs to be done to get through the day