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Quick marriages ...married in 19 months

24 replies

ceered · 01/08/2022 14:22

After a bit of a whirlwind this is me.
Met and married my wife in 19 months
We dated for a year during lockdown and now we are married after a short engagement.
Do you think we moved too fast?

OP posts:
LunaLemon · 01/08/2022 14:24

Not necessarily. How old are you?

Original poster
ceered · 01/08/2022 14:26

Both 38
I have a grown up son 19 and she has no children from previous relationships.
In a way it feels like my chance for a second family now my eldest is grown up

OP posts:
Hadalifeonce · 01/08/2022 14:28

We got married within 9 months of meeting. We both new wholeheartedly, that it was the right thing to do. That was nearly 24 years ago.

litterbird · 01/08/2022 14:28

I am curious why you have asked the question? If all was well and you were happy and made the right decision you wouldn't need to ask on mums net? What are you worried about apart from being a whirlwind? Have you got some issues that you never saw in lockdown?

QueenofLouisiana · 01/08/2022 14:29

We’d met, married and bought a house in 22 months. We’d been seeing each other a month or so less than that, so probably a similar timeframe.

I’m currently browsing holidays to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary. 😀

girlmom21 · 01/08/2022 14:30

It's not necessarily fast normally but it is if you were in lockdown for half your relationship

NancyPickford · 01/08/2022 14:52

Met in March, married in October the same year. 26 years ago.

Brefugee · 02/08/2022 08:27

what's too short or too long? time will tell.
FWIW: met (worked together but not closely) in April. got together in July and got married in November. 41 years ago.

JuneOsborne · 02/08/2022 08:28

Are you happy?

mumonthehill · 02/08/2022 08:33

Met and married within a year, 23 years ago and still married. I think it depends on a lot really as you cannot know each other completely in that time so you have to be open to new issues coming up.

palelavender · 08/03/2023 04:50

I think we were engaged after about a year. We had a longer engagement because I wanted to get married in summer and it was too late to organise it that midsummer. We've been married 30 years. I can't understand the Mumsnet idea of going out together for simply years. If you have met the right one, you should secure them immediately. If they are not right, you should move on.

At your ages, I wouldn't be messing around.

Zanatdy · 08/03/2023 04:56

Not necessarily. My friend was married within 18 months and 12yrs on very happy. If you’re young then I’d say why the rush but later on and wanting kids then I’d say why wait. I mean I don’t know if there’s any stats that says marriages like that break up anymore than those who wait years

Cookiecrush · 08/03/2023 04:56

Only way you can judge is if you are happy. Me and my husband met and were married 15 months later. Five years later we are v happy!

MsDeanna36 · 08/03/2023 05:00

It's perfectly fine, given you are both in your late 30s and mature. It must have felt right for you to make that commitment. Wish you a happy marriage

Frenchfancy · 08/03/2023 05:40

Met and married within 5 months. 29 years ago. Still very happy together. No regrets.

TicketBoo23 · 08/03/2023 06:58

Theres a reason you posted this... What is it?

If you were happy and cool about it all, you wouldn't have posted a thread on this forum.

mdh2020 · 08/03/2023 07:42

We met on Valentine’s Day; moved in together in July and were married the following April. I was 17 when we met and still together, many years later. I can’t understand the people who take years to decide/ realise they have met their life partner.

Icecreamandapplepie · 08/03/2023 07:46

14 months from meeting till marriage.

11 years ago, very happy.

Why are you asking?

pointythings · 08/03/2023 09:47

My best friend met her DH in April, married him in June. They are still together 34 years later.

moonriverandme · 08/03/2023 09:54

Met in April, engaged in October, married in May, 40 years ago.

Bells3032 · 08/03/2023 09:55

My husband and i met and married in 23 months in our late 20s. Certainly didn't feel that it was too fast. We moved in together half way through our engagement (I didn't want to til we were married but it made sense for logistics reasons). Been 5 years and not a minute of regret.

My parents met and married in 4 months and were married over 30 years before my mum passed away.

If you know you know

Quitelikeit · 08/03/2023 09:57

Yes you moved too fast.

It always takes at least three years for a persons true character to come through

I see on here time and again people meeting, falling in love then getting pregnant around the 12 month mark then bang baby comes and all of a sudden he turns into a monster or a milder version of some other unpleasant thing

At least you are only married and no kids involved. I’d say you definitely do not know each other fully after 18 months. Doesn’t mean it won’t work but it was a risk tying the knot

goid luck to you both

Cadburysucks · 08/03/2023 10:32

Met in October married in March. Still together after nearly 29 years. Many ups and downs.

Dinoswearunderpants · 08/03/2023 10:34

It's not fast so long as you feel comfortable.

I met my DH in Feb 19 and we married two years later and baby right away. You can't stifle love.

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