Did anyone have IVF alone and regret it?

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Just considering it. I’m 35. Fed up of dating but also never wanted to be alone nor do I want to not have kids.

Hi Op, I'm a solo mother by choice (I did IVF and used a sperm donor to conceive) and now have a wonderful little boy. I also spent over two decades dating including using the apps between the ages of 36-38/39 as well as being married at one point. I certainly do not regret my decision, it's been the making of me. I only wish I'd started earlier. It was either remaining single and most likely childless or single and with a child. I did not want to miss the chance it try and be a parent.
What are your concerns?

I know people regretting waiting to late and/or struggling with their eggs because of that. Not one of them regretted having their kids.
If you want to have kids - do it soon, while you are still young.

I would say it's worth researching the costs and if your eggs are in good health - I don't think this costs loads and would give you more insight as it how seriously you need to consider it.
Do you have supportive friends/family to help you and keep you going as you raise your child solo?

Hi, I'm 30 and am in the very very early stages of donor IVF.

I have a daughter from a previous relationship but a new relationship isn't something I'm anywhere nearby ready for.

Sorry to just on your thread.

I am 30, daughter (7) from a previous relationship and want to try IVF with donor sperm

I have raised my daughter completely solo and after a horrific relationship with her dad I do not want to be in any new relationships but I know I'm ready for baby #2

I have started planning with the clinic and due to PCOS I have decided to go straight with mild IVF

But now... I have major worries over what people way say/think (silly I know) but I can't seem to shake that unknown worry

Has anyone else been in a similar position please? 😞

No experience. But I think you are more likely to regret the things you don’t do. It’s worth looking into if not there are other options such as adoption/fostering.

I know two women who are very glad they did IVF alone. No regrets at all.

I think both would have regretted not doing it.

Know of one friend of a friend who tried but her eggs were not viable, she adopted instead. Absolutely no regrets.

I think it’s a wonderful thing to do- either adopting or going it alone. You only get one life, if it’s something you want then go for it!

I have two friends who have done this. One has a teen now, quite well paid freelance job. Other less well paid but lives practically next door to her mum who helps her a lot with baby and pre schooler. They both seem very happy with their choices.

Do you have a good support network and financially very stable? Obviously in itself, no matter what the circumstances, being a single parent can be a hard and lonely life at times. Though I sometimes wonder if a big part of the difficultly is having to co-parent with an ex who’s rubbish, disinterested, unreliable - or even worse than that, abusive. With the single parents I know of, that seems to be the main cause of stress and unhappiness. And of course you don’t have to deal with that going down the IVF route. Best of luck to you.