Met an amazing guy OLD 4 months ago. We have chemistry and I enjoy spending time with him - feel like I have known him years. We had the exclusivity chat early on and been in a relationship for 2 months, see each other 3/4 times a week. Starting to meet family and friends.
At the start I had no concerns of his interest. He always texted good morning and night texts and was in contact via text - not loads but a good healthy amount. He is always affectionate when we meet up and we plan activities and dates. We do live a distance away but make it work. He did say he loved me a month ago, I wasn’t ready and he understood this. No normal dating anxiety of does her like me until now.
however here is my anxiety. His texts are less frequent. good morning and night texts are less frequent, but he does touch base during the day and is equal in planning to see each other - no chasing from both ends. He is quieter when we meet up, but still affectionate and complimentary.
I asked him this weekend if he was ok and if we were ok - not in a needy way. He just responded yes, not enjoying his job and feeling a bit down and not sleeping well but all is fine with us and he loves me and looks forward to seeing me to make his day better.
I feel he has pulled away when I said I am starting to fall in love with you, but not there yet. Give me time and it will come. I had concerns that he said it too quickly and was after lust more than relationship- but that’s my jaded view on guys. I am holding back a bit for self protection.
I am not too sure if I am overthinking things and a reduction in communication is normal now we are established or if he is losing interest as I haven’t reciprocated his feelings.
help me not overthink