Me and DP have been together a couple of years and I’m 4 months pregnant. I recently had to move to a relatives to support them through a difficult time. The house is huge, he’s welcome there and we’d have our own space. It’s an hour ish from our current place.
Im staying for 7 weeks before my sibling takes over for a couple of months. So far, DP has been totally miserable about coming over. It’s really upset me. He hasn’t bothered to come over in the week but what’s bothered me most is that come Friday he doesn’t jump in the car to maximise the weekend together, in fact last weekend he turned up on the Saturday at 8pm after we had talked about spending the day/afternoon together.
it’s like this all the time and I’m starting to feel like a bit of a mug. I’ve asked him why it’s such a problem and he just says it’s a long way and that the house isn’t comfortable or is cold etc… ridiculous things really because we have a lovely double bed and loads of space and our own time. Im not spending 24/7 looking after my relative, it’s just general support at my own leisure and having someone around. My relative is pretty much in a separate annex and he doesn’t need to even see them.
he left last Sunday at 7pm, I don’t know why he needed to leave so soon as we’d talked about watching a film but he made it clear he had to. I called him at 10pm and he was extremely drunk… made me think he’d just rushed off to have a binge session instead of being together.
he’s also been really cold and distant when with me, it’s very obvious he doesn’t want to travel or be here.
maybe I’m being clingy and so on. I feel a bit pissed off as I did this journey for the first year of our relationship, going to see him and fit around his work etc. I’m just a bit fed up that for a short time of 7 weeks he can’t just pull his weight and make the effort. It’s almost like as soon as any demands are on him he changes his attitude towards me. AIBU?