Pornography

[Bowie16]

Hi all. Anyone any experience of husband addiction to pornography? Married 27 years, grown up children. Never a great sex life. Turns out DH has been addicted to porn since he was 12. Have just put up with the lack of interest in me over the years but now feel like there’s no future for us. He doesn’t talk about things, is very closed off. Don’t want to divorce but honestly can’t see another way out. Surely nobody can change after 27 years?? Please give me honest response. Other than sex life DH is thoughtful and wonderful dad. Just doesn’t seem to think about me and my needs at all. Don’t want to keep going like this but also very scared of leaving and being on my own x

You don’t need to divorce if you don’t want, you can just live separately.
‘It’s not something I’d put up with.

Thanks for your reply KangarooKenny . Just can’t imagine the rest of my life with him. He says he will get counselling etc but I have had 27 years of no sex/crap sex with him. I’m not a prude and don’t object to porn, have suggested we watch it together. But we do that occasionally (once every 3 years) and he doesn’t suggest unless I do. Life is short, I’m just sad it’s come to this .

I have a happier ending from a very similar story - look at the work of Paula Hall as a starting point -her book for partners is wonderful and her organisation has made all the difference - there is a way through - it takes time and is painful but there is hope that you can both be free of this - sending hugs as I know how hard this is

Please pm me if you think it could help

What did you do? In similar situation.

I would also be interested in how this is going/went.