My DP is very loving and attentive most of the time, but when we go out to gatherings or events he pretty much ignores me in favour of talking crap to his mates/people he knows.
I'm 20w pregnant and we went out to an event at a pub last night. Lots of people we both knew so wasn't too bothered when he went off drinking with others, but it was the full time we we're there. After a few hours I got really tired and was ready to leave, asked him a couple of times but he kept ordering more drinks. In the end I left to walk home, thankfully a family member walked me back but he didn't know that and I could have been walking home alone in the dark and the rain. He turned up home about an hour later, I pretended to be asleep although I was awake and worked up about it.
It wouldn't be too bad if it was a one off but it seems to be everything we do at the moment, we went to a show where he stood talking to a mate for 2 hours drinking, I didn't know anyone there so I was just stood like a spare part. I asked if we could sit down and he said fine, but didn't want to sit down with me. I didn't want to sit on my own while everyone else was stood so I just wandered off on my own in the end. I'd been on my feet for about 8 hours at that point.
Another recent one was at a wedding where I also didn't know anyone, and he left me sat entertaining his kids for the night while he wandered off socialising without a care in the world. Again, had to ask him eventually to leave as the kids were getting tired and fed up and had started to play me up.
I'm very much an introvert, and he is the opposite. I find social situations quite difficult, especially with people I don't know. Added to the fact that I'm pregnant and feeling a bit extra vulnerable, and can't have a drink to relax and get on the same level as others, I'm starting to dread these occasions.
He also does it at home to an extent, if friends or family visit he gets to engage fully in adult conversations with them, and I'm normally left with the kids hounding me, as he's largely ignoring them and their needs.
What I'm trying to figure out is, am i being a bit needy and should I be able to hold my own more in these situations as an adult? Or should he be a bit more supportive and attentive to my needs whilst we're out? I don't want to ruin his fun, and there's definitely an element of male bravado and not wanting to appear "whipped" on his part. I don't know if this has become worse since my pregnancy or if I'm just more bothered by it since. It was a planned pregnancy on both our parts.
I just don't feel very looked after at the moment, and I spend most of my life looking after him and his kids, sacrificing a lot of my time and energy. It doesn't feel reciprocated.
Is the solution simply to stop accompanying him to things and enjoy the peace and quiet of my own home?