How did you know your partner was cheating?

[MamaH2023]

Bored on a Saturday night and got thinking.

How did you know/find out your partner was cheating?

Did you ever confront the other woman/man?

Did your partner confess first?

Looking back was there any signs that were now obvious that you missed?

My mum got cheated on by a previous DP for years and years and took him back so many times. She found his car outside his ex house when she was driving by (private regi) and she then knocked him clean out outside Asda 🤣🤣 xx

Bump 🙂

Gut feeling, it's never wrong. With my ex I just had a feeling he was up to no good, I was right

There's another thread on this exact topic. 200+ posts

How did you find out your husband/partner was having an affair? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4596345-how-did-you-find-out-your-husbandpartner-was-having-an-affair

Losing weight, new clothes, guilt gifts were a few I picked up on.

He asked me how to take a selfie in a mirror. I have only ever taken one, but used it on FB as a jokey update during lockdown. He had recently told me an old girlfriend had friended him on FB. I checked his phone ( we have never been secretive about phones and all the family are on the same apple account) and found an overly affectionate conversation between them.
Essentially he dropped himself in it. Due to lockdown there was nothing physical but I think the intention was there on both sides.
A lot has happened since then and since my DH is a firm believer in karma it has really hit him hard.
I confronted him immediately and also contacted her. Having read their convo thoroughly, I felt that he was being very disingenuous with her. At no point did he mention he was still married and despite sharing lots of photos ( none of them intimate , more life events) I was never mentioned.
The ex doesn’t live locally and there is no way she would know about me, well maybe her job would give her access to details.
Anyway it took a long time to work through it and as I said other life events happened that refocused our relationship. I do have regrets that I didn’t leave when I had the opportunity since I now feel I can’t leave ( DH had a stroke recently and although he has made a good recovery it has left him unable to function on his own ). In my parallel world I would be living the high life and OW would have all the shit I’m currently having to go through.

Not me, but my mum found out my dad was cheating when she caught him picking pubic hairs out of his teeth one night 🤮