My ex got married today,I'm gutted...how do I get over it?

[justclosethatdoor]

We split 2 years ago nearly.
She was a narcissist,the relationship ended bad and we continued speaking but she was awful to me,making me jealous ,talking to multiple women (when we were together)
Constantly talking about how gorgeous she was and everyone wanted her-I felt so insecure and never good enough.
She did some awful things to me-spoke to me awful at the end,gaslighted me...but all I can think of is the good times.
She met someone and proposed 7 months later and 6 months later (today ) is their wedding day.
I honestly feel sick
She put me through hell and treated me like scum (and many other women who she was messing with ) and now gets her happy ever after in 1 1/2 years.
I feel so so sad and worthless today
Why wasn't I good enough
Why did she treat me so awful
I wish I had been enough
I'm sat here wishing I was the bride

Our mutual friend stupidly sent me pics
She's updated her profile pic and she actually looks happy on her wedding pic
Bit of a gut punch
Is it bad I hope it doesn't last?

No, you gained wisdom.

She hasn’t changed or repented or any of that. She just ticked off a goal of “married at 40”.Sounds like she literally went shopping for a bride - someone she could love bomb to the altar.

I doubt it will last, but you need to focus on yourself now. I’m sure you can find someone much better than that once you’ve recovered from all the nonsense.

It's hard to rationalise how she can be this person for someone -yet put me through it all
I've never ever been treated or spoke to the way she did me-just total nastiness
Now seeing her smiley happy pics she's plastering all over Facebook just add salt to the wounds

Don't be bitter - be better. And without the weight of her nastiness you have the freedom to do exactly that. Fuck her happiness, focus on your own.

I think once I get it into my head that I didn't make her nasty -that was in her wasn't it.
Like I couldn't treat anyone like she treated me because it's not in my nature.

P.s it's me I've just name changed

Gaslighters, abusers and the like all have to go into new relationships with their charming faces on, but it won’t last, they can’t sustain it. It’s just part of the cycle.

It’s weird isn’t it? I remember crying when my ex told me he was getting married. I’d wanted the divorce, I didn’t want him back… it really floored me feeling so upset. It passed in a few days, it’s just that our emotions are complex, linked up with people in all sorts of ways.
Call today a misery day, you’re allowed to cry, feel sad. Then tomorrow move on with a plan to do something just for you.

Tbh I don't actually feel as bad today really.
I've been thinking of the awful ways she treated me and it helps
Every picture of her it's like she's dead behind the eyes
I honestly believe she wanted to be married by 40
She was scared to be alone and has literally just married the first relationship she's got in
That helps