The biggest mistake of my life

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I have been married for less than a year but lately, maybe the last couple of months I've been wondering if I've made a huge mistake. We got married last October after being together for three years, I was pregnant with a planned baby when we got married. Now the baby is 5 months old and I love being a mum but my relationship isn't really satisfying me anymore. I think that's down to a few factors, he's taken on a new role at work and while he always worked away a few days a week he now works away 4 days a week and when he comes home there is often a lot of admin and paper work, as well as this he brings his dirty washing back and I cook meals for him to take away. He's often tired and overworked but he's self employed so needs must.
I don't miss him when he's gone, I sleep better and I have my own routine.
He also has a child from a previous relationship so they visit when he's back and be sort of lumps 'family time' together. We are also struggling a bit financially and I gave him £7,000 which I saved from selling my business, this was to tide me over so I didn't need to work so quickly after having a baby, my maternity allowance runs out soon and I'm worried about finances, he needed it for his new role but I'm worried it won't bring in the revenue he thinks it will, I'm basically disillusioned by him and his role in my life, I wonder if I love him anymore... should I leave now or can you feel like this and get over it...

I may be old fashioned but I think you need to give it longer and talk about how things could be improved. Does it seem he will always have that work pattern?

Sorry you're going through all this, it sounds tough.

My first instinct would definitely not be to leave him (shock I know) but you are not married very long and there are so many other steps to take first. Marriage vows are so very important and this could just be a set-back.

Talk to him? Tell him your worries. Talk about the financial issues and form a strategy on how to solve them. Talk to him about the impact his job is having on your marriage and perhaps discuss an alternative solution.

Remember your baby is still young, you're dealing with all the challenges that has brought (I've a 9MO myself so I can relate) including a huge change in daily life/routine and rapidly changing hormones.

Talk to your husband. Be open and honest. Don't throw the towel in.

There's such a distance in how you talk about him. He sounds like a stranger. Did covid impact your relationship ie being apart or forced together?

There also sounds like step parenting issues which you would be better posting about on that board.