Pregnancy/relationship

[ttc2603]

I'm just looking for some advice ever since I've got pregnant I've been so unhappy and just hate my boyfriend and I feel bad. He's not a bad person and he does everything he can for me but I just can't help but hate him. I'm not sure if it's pregnancy hormones or I'm just tired and bored of him? I've never really been madly in love with him but I did love him but now I don't feel anything towards him apart from hate and he just irritates me so much and I feel so unhappy but just can't leave as I want to stay together as a family. Any advice please

Staying together for the sake of a child is the worst thing you can do. You would be bringing a child into a toxic environment that eventually, they will pick up on. Time to have a conversation with your partner 👍🏻

If you want to stay together get married.
Sometimes hormones in pregnancy cause this or sometimes it's clarity about your true feelings. Can you afford a few counselling sessions to talk this out with someone qualified?

How far pregnant are you? I distinctly remember feeling this with my ex husband. Even his smell pissed me off (wasn't a bad smell.. just HIS smell). I really truly hated him. But then 13/14 weeks along and I liked and loved him again. It was the first trimester hormones for me! X

I've had this feeling since about 9 weeks I'm currently 13 weeks so not sure if it's just how I feel about him now or it is my hormones lol. I get what you mean tho even him breathing near me just aggravates me and the smell of him I know what you mean 🤢

I'm not good with talking about how I feel and my feelings so I always feel as though it don't work for me. I don't think we're ready to get married yet and I definitely wouldn't when I feel this unhappy I would just regret it.

I guess I'll have to wait it out before I make any decisions, reading your comment has gave me some hope lol because he is a lovely person and he does try so I honestly have no reason on why I should feel this way towards him x

That's the issue I try and talk to him. This is also why I've started to hate him he just don't listen! And he never sees anything he does wrong only sees what I do/don't do. It's really pissing me off as I feel as though I get nowhere when I try to communicate because hes so childish and don't like to hear about himself. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do we have the same partner lmao?! Jokes aside - that’s really annoying if he never sees that he does wrong too. Communication is so so important, if he is not willing to have an adult conversation with you and actually address issues, then it would stress me out too! All you can do is put your foot down and maybe say to him about how you’re really feeling. If he doesn’t listen.. maybe text him, so he can actually absorb what you’re telling him. Explain that your hormones are all over the place which isn’t helping however you’re not happy and you don’t want the added stress when you’re pregnant x

It honestly can be a hormonal thing. It could also be, as someone else mentioned, that you've really assessed your relationship.

If you were happy before, and he's not abusive and you're safe, apart from having the ick, I'd recommend riding it out for a little while and seeing how you feel once you're less hormonal. It'd be awful if you made a rash decision and it turned out to be hormones.

I tried for my baby and when I found out I was over the moon. After a few weeks I was like "what the hell have I done?" And then my DP started making me feel funny. Hang in there. It could be something, but it could equally just be silly hormones. It's still crap to go through tho! Xx

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I'm worried about the pregnancy and my OH doesn't get it.
He not getting certain things not just about the pregnancy just other things too. He been away a a couple of weekends helping at events getting money. Then we both got Covid and he had to stay home. It does feel like he don't want to here at times. Feeling very emotional and irritable.
I feel completely stuck while he go about doing what he wants. Well not know but before we both got Covid.
I feel he can be so selfish at times. I explained my view on something doesn't get it.
Your not alone feeling like this..

I know the feeling myself, he always makes out like I'm just being over the top when I'm not at all. I'm stressing about the pregnancy because of previous miscarriages and it's like he just don't give a shit and I also moan about how hard pregnancy is but he acts as if I'm just moaning over nothing. Mine also avoids me and makes me feel that way and when I try to talk to him about it it's like he just completely ignores me and twist it onto me, really sick of him and dunno what to do!! Men are the worst lol

And same he goes and does what he wants when he knows I'm not feeling the best so I can't really do much!! It's not fair at all he should be supportive and not be a dick

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I have decided to go for private scan now and I don't want him there. I do have a lot of anger maybe resentful towards him. He going away on 18 and just feel like I just need to focus to myself , pregnancy and my teenager.
I just feel emotional and he asking what is wrong.
I know he hating being home because of Covid and he was like oh you love it now I got this. I can stay home with you.
He just doesn't seem like he wants to be around me.
I even told him Thursday before he tested positive why don't you f tonight too. I just could see he couldn't wait to go away. He said you love me sitting at home.
Maybe it's Pregnancy hormones etc. Don't feel myself at the moment. His lack of understanding doesn't help.

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Told him to f off Thursday I mean.

He annoyed me yesterday telling him my concerns about being pregnant and he said maybe you don't want to be pregnant.
Not sure about you but stopped sex for now because of my pregnancy worries. Feel that might push him to do something behind my back. I am just all over the place.
Because of something that happened while he was away he doesn't see why I was upset.