Thought I wanted a relationship...

[ToastedWaffle]

Been single 3 years after a horrendously abusive relationship.

Finally decided to take the plunge and venture back in to dating again. Feel like I want a relationship. A happy loving one.

Signed up to OLD. And honestly? I've spoke to loads of men, had messages back and forth with so many. Even exchanged numbers with a couple of them. But I. Just. Can't. Be. Arsed.

I swear, I thought after 3 years of singledom by choice I was more than ready to find a man. I'm not even remotely attracted to any of them. I'm swiping left on every profile. I only message men who have messaged me first. And I dont fancy anyone. Not one single one of them. It feels almost like a chore now to reply back. An obligation I have to fulfill. I'm finding reasons (mostly legit, some not so much) to not bother replying to stop replying to them.

What am i doing wrong? Why am I like this?

My hobby is martial arts based, I do that two just a week. The guys there are more than likely in relationships already. I dont ask, i just go there to train.

You have to do new things all the time, OP. No use showing up to the same group of unavailable men every week. It's numbers. You might have to meet quite a lot of people before your guy shows up. A part time course, here, a country walk there... little by little you'll meet new people. If you don't meet a man, you might meet a woman who's brother is single and looking. You just need NEW people.

You sound just like me OP. Reading this post with interest.