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I've got to tell him I've got issues

28 replies

CathyTheQueen · 27/07/2022 15:37

Been with someone 8 months. He's lovely. I do have depression and recently I'm spiralling. When this happens I become withdrawn and obsessive. We're going to talk tonight I've got to tell him what's wrong with me basically.

OP posts:
ClocksGoingBackwards · 29/07/2022 10:35

Your family’s reaction was unsupportive, but that doesn’t automatically mean that your boyfriends will be. You don’t have to tell him anything about how you feel or what’s going on for you, but he will know somethings happening. You can’t have a relationship while hiding something so difficult for you and expect that relationship to be successful. If you’re honest, this relationship stands a much better chance, and you have the chance of getting some support. He may not be able to deal with it, but at least you’ll know sooner rather than later.

GreyCarpet · 29/07/2022 10:35

Get to your doctor. Seriously. Although easier said than done currently!!

I was a 100% single parent with similar levels of support from my family so I went to the GP. It was situational so I didn't have counselling, just citalopram and its nothing to be scared or ashamed of.

It gave enough of me back to get back onto an even keel.

Just talk to your GP.

Luredbyapomegranate · 29/07/2022 11:03

LightandMomentary · 27/07/2022 17:51

OP, you have 3 choices really:


  1. Don't tell him anything but he will know that something is wrong if he knows you at all.

  2. Tell him that you're going through a rough patch, you get a bit withdrawn and obsessive but you'll come out of the other side and will get better again.

  3. Tell him the full story.


Personally, I would tell him 2, as if you're unsure of his reaction, it's the 'safer' option. Only you can decide though.
I hope it goes well, whatever you decide. x

This is sensible

also op - are you getting support? If not please contact your GP

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