Questions to maximise half hour with solicitor

[TipTopTurvy]

I have just paid to have an appointment with a solicitor re my dh and separating and possible (but unprovable as only verbal) abuse.

What do I need to go armed with and what questions do I need to ask to maximise this? Going to be very very broke so need to get what I can out of this.

Dh doesn't know and he is going to be furious. He said last night I could either buy him out or we put the house on the market. He knows I cant buy him out so that's a non choice so I said put the house on the market. It all escalated and the older two were with me and dd with him and I was on the phone on hold for about 2 hours to a DA line and got to position one and the police called to check I was ok as he had called them saying me and the kids had been kidnapped 🤔
Police attended (we were just down the street) and did a welfare check on dd who said she was fine and happy to stay with him.

He is threatening to take dd to another country, and take 80/20 of assets as he has always earned more. He has, I think, manipulated her and said he is going to take her to live on the beach with puppies. (She is upset one of our dogs got seized when I called the police on him a few weeks ago)

Anyway. Questions to ask please and documents I need to secure either in the safe he doesn't have the key too, or to take to work to hide.

Many thanks.

I’m no expert but I would definitely see about getting passports, birth certificates and your marriage certificate.

I believe you need the permission of the other parent if you are taking a child out of the country but if you can check this with the solicitor.

I would also ask them about the possibility of you staying in the marital home until the children have grown up as this may be an option.

The solicitor should be able to advise what you are entitled to in terms of assets and if you have worked less in order to provide childcare and accrued a smaller pension you may be entitled to a share of his pension too.

I felt a lot better after speaking to a solicitor, I hope it goes well for you too.

Prohibitive steps order? I think this prevents him removing a child from the country.
Split of assets 50/50 — he doesn’t get to choose a split that suits him.

Sorry, can’t think of anything else. Sorry you’re going through this, it sounds awful.