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Is this mentionitus?

35 replies

Rachswin · 27/07/2022 10:59

There are lots of dog owners where DH and I live. Sometimes we will walk the dog individually and sometimes we go together. The other morning DH came back from walking the dog and mentioned that our dog had met a new dog. He mentioned the dog's name and said that he had walked some of the route with the woman.
Then he told me how old he thought she might be. He also told me what her plans were for the day ahead, and that she wasn't following her usual walk time because she was going for a new job.
Then later he brought up this woman again to tell me something she had told him about another dog walker (who neither of us know).
Is this normal to be this friendly with a total stranger?

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LightDrizzle · 27/07/2022 12:44

Wait and see if he mentions her again or if he changes his dog walking habits. It does sound a bit like mentionitis but of course that doesn’t mean he’d ever act on the attraction it would signify he felt.

Cheminaufaules · 27/07/2022 12:45

All normal apart from the laugh. It acts like a pause. So there was something about that which made him feel slightly uncomfortable. People do that sometimes when they are stalling for time, to think of what to say or how to say something or even when they are making something up. Then the over-egging by mentioning her again later. Perhaps she is being used as a deflection.

Billylilly · 27/07/2022 12:52

Sounds like he’s a bit over excited by his encounter with this woman. I wouldn’t worry unless he starts seeing her regularly. I’ve made plenty of ‘friends’ at the dog park, men, women, young and old and walk with them when we’re there at the same time

Billylilly · 27/07/2022 12:53

I should add, I may bring them up in conversation with my partner. After this long together we have little to talk about 😂

TedMullins · 27/07/2022 13:05

I have a dog and have often walked part of the route with other walkers I’ve never met before. I’ve made loads of new friendly acquaintances like this. It would be normal for me. Not sure of the significance of him saying ‘ha’?

Livpool · 27/07/2022 13:15

Rachswin · 27/07/2022 11:34

Thanks for all the opinions. I think it was two things which rattled me. The little laugh when explaining about her, and the fact he brought her up again later in the day. I don't think anything is going on then. I think maybe then he found her attractive/enjoyed her company and that thought lasted in his head a few hours.
Personally, I wouldn't walk alone in the country with a man I had never met before but others would it seems.

Before their dog died my MIL did I this all the time - I don't think it is rare

Polimolly · 27/07/2022 14:26

Is he bored? Would he normally have lots of news to share? If his life is a bit tedious, maybe he found this trivial piece of news quite exciting. It's the kind of thing my mother would do because there's little else going on in her life.

GreyCarpet · 27/07/2022 15:19

Mentionitis is a funny one. Does he normally talk about other people?

I spout out all sorts of random shit if I've been talking to someone new. Sometimes it's just nice to have something different to say or there might be something interesting about them. I talk about my much younger male colleague to my (twice my colleague's age) boyfriend all the time largely because he's the only person at work I actually have any time for! But if he were a suspicious man, it would definitely get his spider senses a tingling...

So talking about someone on the day of meeting, I wouldn't worry about too much personally. If she started popping up in random, unrelated conversations then I might think differently.

Maytodecember · 27/07/2022 15:31

Rachswin · 27/07/2022 11:11

Also, now I'm thinking why would a woman choose to walk a semi-rural route with a man she's never met before?

It’s quite common for people to chat while they’re dog walking. In the last couple of weeks a man has told me all about him and his wife touring through Italy, another man was French, here on holiday ( very cute little dog that didn’t look its age) and I heard the entire history of a woman’s three rescue dogs and where she was going later with her husband. And this is while walking through woodland , parts of which are remote I suppose. It can get a bit boring walking a dog, even if you vary where you go.

SingingInParadise · 27/07/2022 15:57

I was travelling recently. I need special assistance and ended up having a chat with people waiting for the same flight.
In one case, I talked with a gentleman about wheelchair and the issues of travelling by air in your own.
In another, it ended up in a conversation about where everyone lived, health issues and possible treatments, contacting a family member with my phone etc….
Still on that same trip, I had a woman and a man sitting right in front of me and the guy started to chat up the woman as soon as he sat down. With all the arrogance men can have (I think he didn’t expect to find an attractive woman with better training/position than him!).

Now that last one was creepy and I could tell the woman was uncomfortable (but obviously couldn’t leave). If your DH had done that, then yes I’d have an issue.
The first two? Just strangers having a chat.

I suspect that this is exactly what happened with your DH. And he mentioned what she said just like I mentioned te people I talked to to my dh.

Now IF he was to change the time for his dog walk to match hers, was always ‘meeting her’ during his walk etc… THEN it would be mentionitis

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