Feeing checked out

[Sydney0101]

Since DD2 was born, I have been feeling very distant and almost checked out from family, friends but especially my marriage.

I love my husband and I love our family but it is very obvious that I seem to be the one with the issue because I have no desire for anything anymore or I avoid a lot. For a while I thought maybe I'm fully checked out but I think I may be going through something emotionally and mentally and I feel a bit faded and in my own planet.

My & the hubby have a great "friendship" in our marriage, we talk a lot and laugh a lot but because of my avoidance we haven't had sex in a while.

Aside from life being super busy when you got small kids and work etc, I really miss my old relationship with my husband and I do struggle to adapt with change.

Leaving my husband is not an option because I really want to fight for my family but I would love to get some ideas from other people who have been in similar situations.

I am starting gym and will try to make a better effort on myself but what can I do to really take things up a notch..

To me you sound depressed, not ‘checked out’.

I have been there myself a few times and recognise the feeling of withdrawing and avoiding people and life in general.
Have you tried speaking to your GP?
Gym would certainly help. So can be even a small dose of antidepressants.

I agree that it could definitely be depression but it's also stresses of being a new mum again. I am currently in therapy already and wasn't sure if anti-depressants given I am EBF.