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Does he still love me?

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moonlightbaby · 26/07/2022 19:10

Me and my partner have been together for 6 years. Recently he wanted to break up saying he wanted to be alone. The night he broke up with me he came back the next day saying he's made a mistake. He has been struggling with MH the past few months and blamed his rash decision on that. Things are getting back to normal but we don't cuddle or talk in bed at all. This makes me upset as most couples do this. Should I be worried?

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Horological · 26/07/2022 19:23

Nobody on here knows if he loves you or not. He probably doesn't know either. Does he love me ? This is the wrong question to ask. A feeling of love does nothing by itself to sustain a happy relationship. These are the questions you need an answer to:

-What is his mental health like? Can he/will he get help with it?
-Regardless of feeling love (which is just a feeling that does not necessarily translate to actions needed to support a good relationship) is he prepared to stick with you while you work through his issues together?
-Is he truly aware of how his actions impact you and is he able to be mindful of this?
-Do YOU want to stay with him? This is the most important question,

Nobody on here can answer these questions. Only you can

YukoandHiro · 26/07/2022 19:24

☝🏻very good advice for you here

MurphDad · 26/07/2022 19:30

I was in a new relationship and after 6 months suffered MH problems. Personally I found it all consuming and all my energy was internalized. My emotional batteries were drained and found it virtually impossible to give out anything. It was all very confusing and my mind was all over the place. I found I needed to know the support was there, space to try and sort out MH and no expectations/pressure. Difficult situation for you both. Key thing is to get the MH issues resolved. Is your partner getting any help?

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