Introducing “new” partner to child

[HPD76]

I've been with my “new” partner for a smidge over 3 years now. It’s the real deal and at some point we will get married and try our best at a happy ever after.

My child is 11 but hasn’t yet met my partner. I wanted to take my relationship fairly slow but it’s getting to the point now where they are going to meet. My child doesn’t even really know I’m in a relationship yet, they know I have some very good friends and that this person is one of them, they’ve said hi on the phone, but they’ve never met.

It’s been pretty easy to compartmentalise my home life and my relationship because it’s a long distance relationship. We see each other fortnightly when my child is with their father.

Does anyone have any advice on how best to introduce them? We’ve got a day out booked for a months time and they will meet there. They share a specific interest, and we are going to a museum devoted to this specialist subject, they are both very much looking forward to going to this museum. I know it’s not going to be an easy road, but where possible I want to get this right, for all of us.

Thank you in advance.

Sorry you didnt get any replies but curious to know how did it go, with me contemplating a similar scenario soon-ish

Wow, I’d forgotten I’d posted this, almost a year later and there is an update. We are still long distance, but hoping to move closer to each other in the next year. They have met each other two or three times and they get on like a house on fire. They have a lot of the same interests, so that really helps. It’ll be a long time before we have any sleepovers with them both in the same house, just because I’d rather take that bit quite slowly, but they love spending time with each other, to the point where I joke that I’m the third wheel. I think taking things glacially slow has helped, but different stroke for different folks.

I did start off by introducing him as a very good friend, and a couple of weeks ago I asked how they’d feel if I had him as a boyfriend and they were incredibly enthusiastic about that, so I think there will be a happy ending of sorts. Thank you for asking.

Ah that's great to hear!
I'm gearing up to introducing my 13 and 16 yo. They know I'm seeing someone as I got tired of sneaking out and coming up with excuses, but waiting for right time to introduce...
I'm hoping they'll all be fine too but lets see!
Guess moving closer will be great for you x