to jealous

[buzzzybee]

Some1 give me some advice plz! My jealousy has got v bad i always think my bfs cheatin,his cars broke so he has to go on the bus,even the thought of him sitting next to a girl upsets me. Hes good the problem is me im so insecure! i even turn the t.v over if theres a pretty women on it! if he looks at a women when we're shopping i go crazy! i heard the saying theres no harm in looking but at the time it happening i dont think of that,hes quite gud looking so women do look but i dont get y im so upset?

you need to GET A GRIP

every time you think this say to yourself out loud "he is MY boyfriend and I trust him" at least 5 times

positive reinforcement

I will try thay. I must look crazy in the middle of tescos pinchin him

im also 6months preg so i feel frumpy at the mo n im dreading summer!

Buzzybee, have you always been like this or just with him?
A friend of mine was like that, she was very jelous, she wouldn not confess it to us but she ruined relationships purely because of that. She finally went to talk to a counsellor and then had some cognitive something therapy. It turned out that she had had a traumatic childhood, with very possessive controlling parents and a neurotic mother. After a few months, she changed for the better. Still on the jealous side, but not irrational, like she used to.

yes i was like it with my 1st partner aswell. I always have to do my hair and makeup eveyday otherwise i feel so ugly,i dont like feeling this way and its not fair on him or my daughter i have to make some changes. thanks

Go and talk to someone, seriously. I am sure you will be fine.

Definitely time to look for some treatment- it must a very unhappy thing for you to feel, as well as the damage it will do to your relationship. Cognitive behaviour therapy sounds a good suggestion, it is basically learning techniques to control your own thought patterns, so you don't have to get stuck obsessing over thoughts that hurt you. Should be available on the NHS- speak to your GP.

Agree with Twiglett, you need to get a grip, probably by getting some help for your problem. At least you are aware that you are being completely irrational, but you need to sort it out before you drive your bf away.