Relationship anxiety

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Dp and I have been together for a year and a half.

He has given me absolutely no reason not to trust him. The opposite infact he is caring and always here for me.

I have some residual trust issues from a previous relationship where I was cheated on which obviously caused us to split. How on Earth do I get past this? I am particularly anxious at the moment and keep checking when dp is on WhatsApp and asking who he's talking to - usually his daughter or step daughter. I don't want to ruin this relationship HELP

Perhaps have an evening where you don't check WhatsApp?

If you can't manage that you need to stop yourself questioning him if he goes on WhatsApp.

Think about it the other way round, you are whatsapping away to a girlie mate about love island up he pops "who you talking to?" "Susan about love island want to joing in?" .......15 minns later your mum texts "can you water the plants whilst I am away?". Up he pops again "who you talking to now?"

I mean looking at it that way it's a bit OTT, but this is what you are doing. He could be talking to any number of people on any number of platforms. But you say he has given you no reason to doubt him. If he's a decent bloke he won't be able to handle the constant suspicion because it's not fair.

So my original advice stands, don't look at his WhatsApp status unless you are communicating with him. Tightening your grip on wanting to know his each and every message is too much for decent people and WhatsApp is here to stay. You will go nuts.

Turn off your online status. It'll stop you from seeing his. Then work towards asking him what he's up to rather than who he's talking to. Ask him other questions about his day rather than who he spoke to.