He’s still got feelings for her

[Yakkadee]

i think I’m a rebound…. My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 2 months. The last girl he was seeing so not even official ended things with him. I don’t know the details.

Last night we were cuddled up, I was dozing and he was on his phone. I could feel his phone vibrating, I looked at his screen and he was texting his ex I presume. He was typing long paragraphs saying she kicked him to the curb, she wasn’t understanding, and he mentioned he saw her Instagram was not private anymore so she must be loving the attention of men.

My heart was pounding reading the messages I know it’s not been very long but I feel like I’m falling for him. I don’t want to confront him because I’ve basically read his messages, my best friend said he’s clearly not over her, do I just end it

Yes, just end it. Don't start with drama at the beginning.

Yes. You deserve better. Find someone ready to focus on you before you get even deeper and he hurts you.

TBH the thing I would find most concerning is that he thinks he has a right to speak in a way that’s snarky, sexist and demeaning (“must be loving the attention of other men”) to an ex. Doesn’t sound like a great prospect as a boyfriend.

He sounds disrespectful to you (messaging her while cuddling you?!) and to her. And probably a bit of an incel type, messaging about men looking at her instagram.

Dump him. Or ghost him, whatever you prefer. He’s not a nice person.

I never even thought of that. At first I thought it was jealousy. I text him after I posted this. He said they spoke because they never hashed things out when it ended. He then said he promises he’s over her and he chooses me… weird choice of words

Walk away. Run if you need to.

Just end it. Tell him your heart's not in it.

Do not give him the ego boost of wishing and pleading to be number one in his affections. You're clearly not number 1 in his affections, he's using you and he's not even being that nice to her while trying to win her back, so ............ all in all, run.

Chooses you like he is the prize and you are the competitors erm no thanks

Oh. Too late.

Funny thing is he was texting her in present tense. Like you get what you want from me, I’ve ended it now

That’s not important. He’s not worth your time. He’s disrespectful to women and probably willing to dump you for his ex if it came to it.

You deserve better than him. Why haven’t you ended it? You’re free to leave, and you should.

He's not over it if he's still messaging her while with you. Even if she's not interested, you want a man to solely focus on you.
Any hint of another woman in the background, I'd be off.

2 months in...I wouldn't even bother with a detailed discussion over it tbh. I'd end it and that'd be it, you don't even owe him an explanation or discussion over that.

Just tell him it's not working for you, block him and move on

This isnt how it should be is it… better to end it. He shouldnt be embarking on a new relationship when hes not over last one…

@Yakkadee

Sorry you was just making him feel better while he was broken over their issues. He used you sorry.

I been there and it's heartbreaking but you did the right thing. Keep the door closed now you won't be his side chick when she kicks him out or they have issues. Maybe she don't even know about you too.

Nope. It shouldn't be like this. He "chooses you" 🤢 You deserve significantly better than this OP