Partner holiday

[DH54]

My other half has just said his friend asked if he could go skiing in January. We have a 20 month old and 4 year old. He went skiing when our first born was 4 months old. He doesn’t go on ‘lads holidays’ and all on honestly I do encourage him to meet up with his friends etc, but doesn’t always work both ways! I rarely see my friends.
Where we live currently ( not my choice) is not close to either of our friend network.
Recently I said I would like to have a night with couple of my friends away ( first since our first born) and he literally rolled his eyes!! ( how will I cope!)
I actual don’t mind him going, but feel very annoyed by double standards, plus I know I would feel guilty if I went for one night never mind 5 + for him.
Am I being unreasonable?

No. You should go. They are his kids too. He’s a grown up. He’ll manage. Enjoy your time.

Tell him yes, on the proviso that you get a break BEFORE he goes.

What did you say to the twat when he rolled his eyes? My husband's life wouldn't have been worth living if he treated me like that, I never would have tolerated that bullshit. Your partner either treats you with respect and treats you fairly, or he will be missing out on the holiday.

If you don’t get one night without eye rolls as if he’s fucking off skiing. Does he realise they’re his kids too?

If you let him he’ll keep taking the absolute piss.

'How will I cope?'
'The same way I do every day, and for the five days straight when you're going ski-ing.'

Possibly then..
'Oh but you're better at it that me'
'Best start practicing then. I'm going out. And, whinging isn't an attractive trait'

Start organising a night/ weekend / Holiday away with your friends now
He needs to get used to the idea that it's ok for you to have a social life too and get used to looking after his own kids on his own

I agree, you get to go before he does, even if it’s just one night.
And you should be living where you want to, don’t isolate yourself.

Agree with the others

Plan a holiday for you with your friends - sometimes you can get center parc breaks fairly cheap if 6 of you are going in sept and can share rooms (eg £300-600 between 6 becomes £50-100 each for 3 nights)

Or you go skiing! As this January it's YOUR turn
Or even better go on a lovely long weekend break in Europe with your friends

He already owes you one holiday on your own

I'm surprised he hasn't suggested already that you go off for a break

He will have to cope with DCs as he's their Dad and doesn't get to drop out of parenting

Yep say 'oh that reminds me I'm going away for a long weekend just the girls so works out well that we both get away to see friends'! Then quickly formalise some plans!