How can I be less stressy/less negative?

[EllaBella41]

I do have a history of getting in a tizz about things and know I am a pain and by no means perfect. I can often feel myself spiralling into negative thoughts and getting worked up over little things that others probably wouldn't care about.

But I was a bit shocked today as my partner just said to me today he has been thinking all day about how I will react and it's upset me. I know I'm hard work but it has upset me that he is worrying about what I'm going get wound up about next.

What can I do to be less wound up? I clearly don't want him to think of me in that way and would like to be less stressed about things in general. I also don't want our relationship to be him walking on eggshells and getting fed up of me.

Any advice appreciated.

Check up at the Drs
Meditation
Masturbation
Physically exhausting exercise
Take some space for yourself if you feel a “tizz” coming
Go somewhere you can smash shit up and get it out
Natural drinks and foods with sedative qualities
Good luck.

Oh, and if all else fails, an exorcism. Joke.

Hi op, I would recommend you get into meditation. I'm reading a book by Steven Melemis at the moment and it really has a lot to say about the benefits of this (he uses the term mind body relaxation). It may help to calm down the chatter in your head and help you to live more in the moment. All the best to you.

I used to be like this. Read 'don't sweat the small stuff in love', worked for me.