I don't need any responses, just need somewhere to vent.
Honestly, I am so stupid it makes me sick. Yet another 'relationship' has crashed an burned, leaving me feeling upset, confused and used. I just don;t know what is wrong with me.
I see the red flags and i don't ignore them, I just make excuses for them over and over again. They all start off keen enough, then it all dwindles and end up just being used for sex, there's no emotion or intimacy but I convince myself I'm okay with this. But I absolutely am not.
This last one - six months, went on a mini break last weekend which I organised 100%. I paid for most of it too. I could tell his interest was fading so gave him numerous chances to get out of it but he kept saying he wanted to go and we'd have a great time.
We did not have a great time. Well, he did as we did all that he wanted to do, but I just carried along with what he wanted. Since we'e been back contact has reduced to about 10% of what I'm used to. I try to match what he does and don't double text; I try to keep it light and not be needy, but I just want to call him on it.
How dare he behave like this?
But then all my relationships end this way - for the record I am not needy or clingy, I just want consistency and honesty but clearly that's too much to hope for.
I am so bloody annoyed with myself that I'm feeling this way again - what do men in their 50s want? Because a financially secure, no difficult ex, grown up children, career sorted, own house, reasonably in shape/attractive, likes sex, not materialistic at all woman of 53 doesn't seem to be a particularly valuable commodity.
Arghhh - thank you if you've read this far xx