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The first day he's took DCs and I've spent the day sobbing

35 replies

PurpleSkittles · 23/07/2022 16:39

Dropped them off, went to visit my FM in hospital then came home and sobbed and sobbed all day. Maybe because I've kept this inside around my kids?

I feel like I just can't cope. 13 years. For what? I'm trying to be strong but I'm failing.

Not really sure why I've posted.. maybe for handhold. I just feel distraught.

OP posts:
PurpleSkittles · 23/07/2022 21:45

WestIsWest · 23/07/2022 21:40

I agree. Where were the children when he was behaving like that? I’m not saying don’t let him see them unsupervised but I’d be keeping a very close eye on things.

Youngest was asleep (not sure you'll believe but its the truth!) Eldest was very upset more from the things he was saying I think. There was some horrid stuff said. I gave her the choice and she wants to see him.

OP posts:
Mythreefavouritethings · 23/07/2022 21:45

Adding my hand too, OP.

toomuchlaundry · 23/07/2022 21:46

Are the school aware of his behaviour?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 23/07/2022 21:48

I"m not sure I would let a violent man who shits on his own children's doorstep to be allowed unsupervised access, to be honest.

Have you had legal advice?

Hope you and the kids are home safe now.

twoandcooplease · 23/07/2022 21:58

So sorry you're hitting op xx

I really hope the next grief stage happens soon. Nobody deserves what he did (I can't even write it it's too disgusting!)

EarthSight · 23/07/2022 21:58

PurpleSkittles · 23/07/2022 21:35

Really? I guess I'm just in shock. Seeing him today it was too much too soon I think. I think I'll always love him but there's no coming back from this.

No there isn't. I'm sorry OP :(

When you're in a slightly better place and every doubt your decision, please was 'Maid' on Netflix. It's brilliant and you might really relate to it.

Wartywart · 23/07/2022 22:07

Smashed up the house, said a load of horrible things to you and then shat on your doorstep? What a revolting creature.

catandcoffee · 23/07/2022 22:11

OP for you 💐

StepAwayFromGoogling · 23/07/2022 23:22

I'm so sorry you've spent the day crying, OP. But you are definitely going to be better with him out of your life. It's just going to hurt and feel like shit for a while. You WILL be OK, though, I promise.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 23/07/2022 23:43

It’s a first that’s why

soon it will become less painful

then you will start to use the time for
self care

and maybe in the future you will be glad for it as you have a new man

all possible x but right now you hurt and that’s totally normal xxx

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