Don’t know where to start really.. I've been with my husband a long time. Met in our teens now in our 40’s. We’ve had ups and down like anyone but we were still very hands on and loving with each other.
Once the pandemic hit we were stuck with each other and the kids day in and day out and we had no time just the two of us.
Things have gradually now dwindled to the point I feel like we are living like flat mates. There is no affection, sex or intimacy.
We’ve now had plenty time together just the two of us and we still can’t be bothered to make any effort. I’ve tried suggesting meals, weekends away and things to do just the two of us but he isn’t interested.
We both work full time and maybe spend an hour or so in the evenings watching a program together. Then we go to bed with our backs turned to each other then do it all again the next day.
We don’t argue, I really couldn’t be bothered to if I’m honest. I’ve told him one hundred times that we are more like flat mates now then husband and wife and he doesn’t seem to care.
I’m not interested in finding a new man or having any sort of new relationship but I just sometimes wish we could just split up and move on with our lives separately. But it never seems the right time to make that suggestion and I know he would be panicking as he would have to move out and start all over again.
It seems to me that some men won’t end a dried up/dead relationship without having a new one to jump into and I’m not hanging around until that happens. I do genuinely love him but more like a brother. I want him to have a happy life but I’ve realised I can’t continue like this.