Life is not going well

[Bombshell101]

My relationship is on the rocks. We are having space atm as all we keep doing it arguing. Mostly because of the stuff my partner has been saying, causing me to be upset. Alot of stuff has been spiteful stuff eg. I'm a had parent for taking my son out of school because of the heatwave. I never help them even though I've looked after their DD loads of times, help with the house and DIY. They haven't done nothing for me. They constantly nag me and question me. I just feel so sad and don't know how we got here.

Earlier I wrote in a group chat asking if anyone was free to meet up next week with our DS's there's 8 in the chat. All have read, no one's replied.

I have one other free but they are moving to a different country soon.

I just feel so alone and sad. Everything is just crumbling in front of me.

One other friend*

You're not alone luv, although you feel it.

I'm caught between a narcissistic ex who demands control of our child and the one friend who was always readily available has moved 5 hours away.

I feel like my daughter has nobody for us to go on play dates with anymore as well.

If you both decide to split up it's hard in the beginning but once you find your feet you'll be fine.

However silly this might sound, we wouldn't have rainbows without any rain. But it's true. Sometimes life will get really, really tough. Imagine if everything was already great and easy, we would never be able to appreciate this human experience. Because of the bad, we can really feel the good. The only constant thing is change, and that means you won't be stuck in this forever. I can't give any concrete advice but during tough times what gets me through is the phrase "this too shall pass". And remembering what I am grateful for, saying it out loud, every single morning. What do you have in your life that you are happy about? 5 years ago I went through a time when I lost most of my friends within the space of a year, my long term partner cheated on me and that relationship ended. I felt like I had nobody. But it was just the universe freeing up space
For some amazing new people that now I am so, so grateful for. Also I've noticed a pattern that when I'm reluctant to let people go that are not good for me
And don't make me happy, life has a cruel and painful way of removing them. Then later you realise these things...keep going and remember those things you are grateful to have, the rest
Will sort itself out with time xx

Thank you both.

@somanyquestions19 I also have a abusive ex to deal with on top of this so I feel your pain.

@RiceRiceBaby16 thank you, comforting words. It's so hard when you're in the thick of it and feel like everything is just on top of you and so rubbish.

It's also so hard when you thought someone really loved you but treats you like absolute rubbish! When you bend over backwards for someone but they throw it back in your face

Well, you’ve partially got rid of your twat of a partner, so that’s a brilliant thing. It’s hard to do.

It doesn't feel brilliant.

They say I haven't been nice either but for once in my entire life I felt like I've stuck up for myself and maybe that hasn't come across nicely but I have always reacted to them and not me standing up for myself out of no where.

But then they make me question myself and think am I a bad person. Was it me who caused this.

I've always been too nice and soft and people have walked all over me. Funny when you stand up for yourself you become the bad one.

Woke up just feeling empty this morning

I know the feeling, I really do :(
Accept what you feel. It really will pass. Try to do something you really enjoy, something for yourself. Also being outside in nature and fresh air always helps, even if you have to force yourself to get out for a walk. I know it's not much comfort others saying it will get better when you feel so bad now, but think back to hard times you went through previously- you got through it then, didn't you? And things
Did get better?

They are telling lies so that you question yourself and what you know actually happened.

They are angry that you are standing up for yourself and want the people pleasing put up with their shit partner back.

Keep moving forwards, keep reaching out to friends ask when they are free to make plans.

Thank you, I know the feeling will pass eventually. I thought I had found the right person finally but yet again they just walk all over me.

Before was ok, I just remember the painful loneliness. I don't have a good support network. Hardly any friends really. My sister has her own issues. So I'm pretty much alone which is the hardest thing to deal with

I don't have many friends. I wrote in a group chat last night asking if anyone was free next week. No one replied. They are more acquaintances then friends I guess but still hurt.