What damage will this do to the baby?

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My husband left me at 8 weeks pregnant. I’ve been horrendously emotionally stressed for months, I’m 7 months now. I can’t remember the last time I slept without waking in a panic, probably before 8 weeks and before he left.

i have headaches, feel sick, heart races a lot. I’m dealing with a house move alone. I never feel relaxed. I cry daily and often.

I’ve read loads that any stress can impact the baby. I’m so worried as I can’t magic the stress away. I’m deeply distressed a lot of the time. Ex disappeared with another woman and hadn’t spoken to me at all since the day he left so I have no answers despite asking for them, I’m just ignored. That makes me more distressed. I have a sick feeling nearly all the time and have for months.

the damage is done isn’t it? What will this have done to the baby? Im so worried

When I was 5 months pregnant my husband collapsed and was in intensive care for 2 months and he was incredibly poorly afterwards up until after baby was born, I asked my midwife about stress affecting the baby and she said not to worry about it and it would be ok. It was ok! Don’t add extra worry as long as your baby is growing and developing it’s ok

I had pretty bad stress due to a shit relationship with my stbx alcoholic husband
Ds is a very bright and intelligent little boy miles ahead of his expected milestones

Absolutely no damage. People worry that stress will harm their baby and I think it's a real shame that people worry about that as it's highly unlikely/impossible.

I mean, obviously people should be as comfortable as possible in pregnancy for their own wellbeing, but that's probably as far as it goes.

If you are still so stressed, five months later, I'd strongly suggest getting some counselling to help you to cope. But I don't think you need to be overly concerned about your baby's welfare - babies are born to mothers in war zones , prisons, etc and they are fine. Your baby will have you, and that's all he or she needs to have a good life. Get some counselling, surround yourself with supportive people, that will be a good way to go forward. Best wishes to you.

My Mum's little brother died while I was in the womb. Ripped the family apart. I'm fine.

Don't worry about worrying, it's circular. Break the cycle. What makes you feel a little more relaxed? Do that more.