Did you meet your DP in late 30s? If so, how?

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My partner left me for someone else and here I am single and dreading my future. It feels too soon to be dating but I will need to start eventually, and sooner rather than later, as I do want a family. I don’t have the means or money to go it alone sadly.

I had a look at one of the dating apps and I hardly had any interest- I assume it’s my age. I’m 38. Before, many years ago, I always used get loads of likes and messages. I created another thread about this and many (not all) of the posts were negative.

But I know people meet their partners in late 30s and I wanted to ask if you did, how did you come across him/her?

I would like some inspiring stories please.

I’m feeling particularly down that this may be it for me but I don’t want pessimism to take over and hopefully gain some practical tips to at least try.

Thank you.

Do you work in the field? That's not the experience of me and my friends, all of whom were over 35 at the time.

Met mine on bumble

Match.com, we were both 38. Had DD at 40 and married at 43.

Used online dating on and off for about 8 years before we met though and had a few short relationships as a result in that time.

I want to know how that happened!

Work reunion get together

Guardian Soulmates, years ago

I was 38, divorced. No babies but only because I didn't want any more.

I had IVF and was an older patient 38/39(not medically qualified) but this is what I was told by my consultant at the fertility clinic.

The advice is clear regarding egg freezing that it's best done when the patient is under 35, due to egg quality issues, of course the advice may vary according to the individual but overall the first point applies.

If you have fertilised eggs (embryos) and they are of high enough quality then the recommendation would be to freeze them. Embryos tend to have better success rates than frozen eggs in terms out live birth outcomes.

Friends one on tinder the others at one of those business networking meetings held monthly. They're both married with children and very happy

Another friend in the wine aisle at Asda they're also very happy

Two friends have using Tinder.
I worked at the same organisation as mine and we had seen eachother around but neither were single. Got chatting at a work function.

I’d enquire about egg freezing if you want to. Some eggs may not be viable, some will. It’s a risk but if it’s important then it’s worth it.

@HollowTalk I usually ordered via Facebook but it wasn't working. So I used Instagram to send a DM, he said I was welcome and asked how my day had been. We messaged every day and night from then
Skip to 6 weeks later and he sent me a giant bunch of flowers and we had a first date
That was Feb this year. He's 11 years younger than me and thinks I'm the hottest woman on the planet. I tell him he needs to go to spec savers!

So did he own the takeaway or work there or deliver the takeaway? Had you seen him before? Well done you either way! He sounds like a keeper!

Op meant afford alternative ways of having a baby alone not needing a man to finance her life

Mid 30's I'd left a relationship that was dead in the water, I also lived abroad. Came home and he happened to worked at the same large company my brother did, he was the year above me at school and recognised me, we talked for a month before we went out and within 11 months of our first date we were married. I wouldn't change it for the world. When I met him I'd literally lost everything and only really had the clothes on my back, I felt like I was on the shelf and that I'd never meet anyone again, if I did they'd be old, now have nearly everything I've ever wanted in life 😊

Yes. In a pub. Went to a gig with a friend and went for a drink afterwards. Walked in and there he was. He knew my friend and we got chatting. Been together 5 happy years.

We met on Tinder when I was 39 - and then had a surprise DC at 43!

Travelling. Go anywhere with a decent backpacking/ hostel culture and there are lots of interesting singles of all ages and nationalities, easy to get chatting in communal areas and share taxis/ bus routes. You can mostly book a private room in a hostel if the thought of a dorm doesnt appeal.

I was your age when I met DP, and we'll be getting married in a couple of weeks after 8 years.

We actually 'met' at work at a site remote to me. Then we crossed paths that evening on Tinder. lol The rest is history.

Thank you for your positive experiences - just what I need to perk me up and encourage me to not give up (just yet) !

Bumble. And he's younger!
Nearly 3 years now. He's my compensation prize for putting up with my ex for 15 years!
I turn 40 soon

How do other people seemed success stories helpful in any way? It's not an algorithm

I met my DH in real life when I was 40 and he was 38, through a mutual friend we'd both met because of a shared hobby. We both had to work through emotional baggage from our first marriages and get to know one another's children and it wasn't always easy at the start, but many years later I still can't believe how lucky I was to meet someone so compatible.

It is helpful because it gives her hope and positivity. What's your issue with that? Obviously everyone knows it's not an "algorithm", whatever you mean by that.

We met through work events - not work in the same firm though, and discovered we shared a hobby.

Go to more work related events I would say, even if it is online. You will grow your network as well, and some friendships become more in time.