Pregnant to ex...

[limoncelloo]

Have name changed for this...

As title says, I've found out I'm pregnant with exes child. I'm only about 6 weeks.

Together about a year, both early 30s. Ended on okay terms, nothing terrible happened.

I don't want to have an abortion as I just don't feel that it is right for me.

Looking for advice of how and when to tell him?

Is it morally wrong if I leave it for a few weeks or more?

Is it okay to tell him via text? We haven't been speaking at all as I went no contact as soon as I got the vibe that maybe he was trying to keep me around for sex without the commitment...

Any advice welcome 🙏

Tell him when you have decided what to do. Don’t involve him in your decision making process.

Use sentences that are are definitive: “The due date is….” “I hope you will choose to be a decent father.” “I will help you have a good relationship with the child.”

really try to make it clear you don’t want to get back with him.

Can you afford a child alone?
Have you got family support?
Do you want to be tied to this guy for the rest of your life?
Do you want to move to a different part of the country or world?
Ask yourself some serious questions first

Then if yes, just a quick text.

Id personally call him once you've decided for sure whether or not you're keeping the baby. Good luck, op

I don't think it's acceptable to send that via txt. Be adult if you would like the same response back.

Agree with the first comment though about waiting have you thought it through OP. Is he the type to step up? How would this affect your job and so on..

Thanks for the advice so far.

I don't want him to think that I want to continue the relationship, maybe that's why I am apprehensive about telling him at this point.

I agree about the text seeming a bit wrong, hence why I asked. I'm worried though if I phone him he may not answer given I've not spoken to him for several weeks and made it clear I didn't want to continue speaking to him, but maybe the right thing to do would be to attempt to call at least first.

I can afford a child and have support, my job etc wouldn't be impacted too much. As I said I really don't believe abortion to be right for me and I would regret it.

I believe he would step up. He's a decent person in general. I understand I'll be tied to him for a long time, it's obviously not ideal given we aren't together...