Marriage counseling - is it too late?

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My husband and I have been together for 17 yrs. We don't fancy each other anymore. I don't love him. He says he loves me but I don't see how. He wants to do marriage counseling but I think I'm past it. I did want to do counselling a few years ago but he didn't and since then I've completely switched off from him. Our children are young (6&4) and I think I owe it to them to try. Our marriage isn't dreadful, we aren't screaming at eachother but we are irritated by each other most of the time and neither of us is particularly happy. I am not sure marriage counseling will bring back out relationship, or make us fancy each other again. Is it worth it? Can it help? I'm a sahm and am desperately worried about how I will survive financially but I don't want to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Counselling is hard work. It's not a chat and it's all sorted. It's being conscious of your behaviour and communication every day away from sessions. It can only work if all parties are committed, want to makes changes and not just paying lip service. If you're not in 100% for trying, it's wasting your time and money.
It might, however, make your splitting up better and be useful for setting up the best way to co-parent. So it might be that his intent of counselling to keep the marriage going actually morphs into groundwork for a separation.

No advice to add really, but solidarity. I'm in exactly the same boat, been together 18 years and we have children the same age. We've had two sessions of counselling so far. Our counsellor always tells us to just be a couple during the week and bring any issues to counselling but I just can't find the enthusiasm to try anymore. We've had years of bickering, little affection and no intimacy. I also asked for counselling eight years ago and he refused. He's only became interested when I announced I wanted a divorce. I'm going to ask my counsellor how to change my mindset next week, but I'm struggling to see how counselling will result in us staying together. If I get any useful advice I'll pass it on.

Hello, sorry to resurrect- can I ask how things have worked out for you all? Same position here 😏