Succes stories

[Sunshinemomma3]

My partner and me have been together for near on 8 years. Last year he had too much to drink and ended up in bed with his ex. We sorted it out and he thinks I'm over it but I think about it alot still.I don't want to break up with him. He's the love of my life and amazing with my kids.

Has anyone got any advice about how I can move on from this and be fully happy again like we used to be. I'm at my witts end

You can't make yourself happy with something you're not happy with and you'd be a fool to try. You've got healthy boundaries, that's why you can't 'get happy' again.

I agree with Watchkeys.

Sorry but, once the trust has gone it’s impossible really difficult to get back.
You’ll be forever thinking “what if..” when he goes out, no matter how many reassurances he gives.

There, in the back of your mind is sitting “he did it once, will he do it again?”
And that doubt in your mind will tarnish the relationship so it can never go back to how it was, even if you stay together.

I'm sorry. Have you told him how you feel now?
I personally couldn't get past that no matter how much I wanted to.
But if you want to try you need to talk to him and try and work through it together 😞

Also, the love of your life wouldn't have you feeling this doubt. He wouldn't fuck up to the extent you'd be left this upset.

The love of your life wouldn't fuck someone else. Do you really think that's what the loves of people's lives do?

You’ve chosen to stay with him but that doesn’t mean you can’t let him know you’ve forgiven him but not “over it”. It’s a kind of grief where he’s killed part of what you used to have and life will never be totally the same because that part of history exists. You need him to know that it still hurts you and haunts you.