I was married to my 1st husband for over 20 years and we had two children together. I married my 2nd husband pretty quickly and it was over within a year. When I met my boyfriend, I made it perfectly clear that I didn't want marriage and he felt the same. We have been together for 1-1/2 now. I recently found out that he had bought an engagement ring for me. He told me that he was planning to ask me to marry him in Salem MA (We never did go, my intuition told me not to go) He was going to do propose this past April when we had only been together a year, I have never been to Salem and it would have scarred me for life had he asked me and I turned him down. I have repeatedly told him that I don't want to marry and he has repeatedly ignored those pleas. He even told his mother he got me a ring BEFORE he told me, he told my sister and my best friend. The only reason I found out is because we got into a huge fight and broke up for a bit and he left it on my doorstep. We got back together and he keeps pushing the issue and was upset when I posted an article that I liked on facebook, about a woman who was married twice and didn't want to do it again. It resonated with me and I posted it, he got upset (like, um..I've been upfront about this). He has some good qualities and I'd had to completely break this relationship. Keep in mind that he too has two failed marriages and we are in our 50's, so I see no reason to do it again. Am I being difficult? I just don't understand why he can't understand where I am coming from.