If your DP said this to you…

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‘If you came to me and said you were pregnant I’d be delighted.’

And then, unbeknown to either of you at the time, you were already pregnant, what would you expect his response to be when you found out you were?

Well his reaction obviously wasn't what you expected so why not tell us?

What was the context he said that in?

E.g. a serious convo, joking around, a hypothetical scenario?

It makes quite a big difference as to how seriously you can reasonably take that statement.

Well for my husband he would be delighted. But clearly you’re not in a relationship with my husband, so I am unsure why his or anyone else’s husbands reaction is relevant. Surely it’s jist what yours said.

Context is everything. If he meant “thank God, I just thought you were fat” then it was a (poor) joke, and might not imply at all that he wants a baby. If though he’d just been looking at pictures of his brother’s children and was saying how much he’d like some then yes, you’d expect him to be overjoyed.

Whichever it is though, it’s pretty weird for you to think you are pregnant and to not have told him.

Have you posted about this before OP ?

Which one of you was using contraception? I assume he wasn’t thrilled. Maybe just post the whole thing if you want support.

It makes little sense without more context.

Well, I’d expect he’d be delighted but in my experience (ex also said this - often!) it actually meant “I’ll say anything I can to pacify you but I actually don’t want a baby and in fact I’m having an affair”.

My partner has been delighted both times. But yours clearly isn't I assume.

Fantasy and reality are not the same thing though are they

I’d expect them to be happy you were pregnant based on that comment however it sort of depends on whether you were ttc or not. If you were then you’d assume he would be happy but if you weren’t then I could understand being more shocked than just delighted.

Exactly. Plenty of people say things like "I'd love it if....." about something they believe is 100% hypothetical and not going to happen, but if that thing happened in real life they'd actually be shocked or confused, or it would have other downsides that are now suddenly real.

I've never experienced this myself but I've known a couple of people it's happened to and in both cases the fella's response was "Ffs I didn't meant LITERALLY" followed by accusations about deliberately getting pregnant.

OP, what are you actually asking? Clearly your partner has made you feel he'd be pleased to have kids and now you're pregnant, has changed his mind.

What do you want from the thread? For lots of people to say they'd feel upset too?

I'd expect him to be shocked that I was actually pregnant, but pleased because he expressed that he wanted me to be pregnant already.

If he has had another reaction and it wasn't from shock that's on him. You can't say things like that and not mean it

unless he said it sarcastically, I'd expect he would be delighted.

But I'm guessing he very much wasn't.

Same as my partners was - slight shock and disbelief- took a couple of days for it to really sink right in but happy

i was probably much more shocked than he was but happy and scared all at the same time (previous missed miscarriages)

Delighted after an initial shock.

It's like getting the job you've trained for life for, and applied for, and being absoloutley terrified before the excited finally comes.

I’d expect him to be delighted.

What is your real question?

Pointless post OP if you're not going to come back and ask a real question

This is a complete non-story.

Do you need some attention?

I’d assume he’d be delighted. Not the case?

Well, my partner would be confused since we're a gay couple 🤣

Hope that helps you with your situation 😂🤷