Ex kept DC a secret

[HotAndColge]

just that. DC is 2 months old and he’s not told any friends, colleagues or wider family about it. He’s not paying maintenance despite being in a stable well paid job so I will have to apply.

I know I probably need to be talked down but im so annoyed about the fact he’ll be waltzing into work in his suit, having drinks after work chatting away, seeing friends… all of whom have no idea what an utter scummy person he is not seeing or paying for DC.

I get it’s his information to tell but I’d be surprised if he was being such a twat about money if he knew others knew he had a baby… easy to bury his head in the sand otherwise. We were together 3 years. I feel like he’s massively taking the piss. He’s late 30’s and at 20 I could see someone doing something like this but seriously… he’s sat there talking about colleagues kids etc, i know this because he used to tell me when together.

like I say I probably need talking down. I’d just feel better if it was out in the open.

Takes a special standard of creature to not see their own child, and essentially act like they don't exist.

That is not a person who is relationship material, or father material.

Is he on the birth certificate?

I would make sure he has no parental rights, in case he changes his mind and fucks with your childs head in future. You don't want him to have any parental rights.

It is very sad he has never even seen his own baby. But your baby has you to love it and care for it OP. You must make him contribute financially for baby even if you can't make him love baby. Start claim today because it is only valid from day they receive claim, not date baby was born. Move on with your lovely new baby and be thankful he isn't demanding visits at awkward times like some ex do. If he is not going to make effort with baby it is probably best baby does not bond with him, then he dumps baby at a later date upsetting his baby. All your baby's love will be reserved for you. But do make him pay.