So many LTB replies but parental alienation is real

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I saw this article www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11020777/Id-hand-50m-divorce-settlement-today-meant-children-again.html whereby after divorce, this Mother has not seen her children for over 10 years.

The comments section has women sharing similar experiences.

Often when women post here about the hardships of their marriage, they get told to LTB, but when children are involved it is not that simple. People will say 'oh he won't even bother to see the kids so you won't have anything to worry about', but this often isn't the case. And there is a real risk of parental alienation with some of this heartless characters.

My point being, when children are involved I feel there should be less LTB and more of a real understanding of the personalities and situations at play. Because children can and are turned against the innocent parent and it is lose lose for all.

Why should women stay in relationships they are not happy in simply because they have children?

Many of the LTB posts are usually because the man is a bastard, controlling, abusive, lazy, misogynistic and so on.

Why do you think the women should just accept it?

"My point being, when children are involved I feel there should be less LTB and more of a real understanding of the personalities and situations at play".

What do you mean by this?. And how is that achieved?.

What does that particular stance teach the children about relationships; that yes this is how people really do treat each other in relationships?. Abuse affects the children too if they are seeing one parent being abused by the other. Abuse as well is no respecter of class or creed.

The only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none. Abuse is about power and control and such people want absolute power and control here over others.

Someone who’s prepared to do that to their child will be have been a bad parent during the relationship also.

it’s not the relationship breakdown that makes them shit parents who don’t care about their child’s well-being.

These men are dangerous. I spent 4 years genuinely fighting for a fair cao. Further years repairing the relationships with my dc thanks to exh. Sadly 1 was irreparably damaged. It took me 2 years to leave because of what I feared would happen. And I was right he was evil.
Ime women need to think harder about having dc with the right man....

That poor woman.

I agree with the OP. I don’t think that she is saying women shouldn’t leave, but that it is too blithe to assume that that will be it.

Tbh I don’t understand why people see their ex not bothering with the children again after a split as a good thing, women are so weird they moan about dead beats but then see exes disappearing out of their child’s lives as a good thing.