how to deal with bitch sis?

[donbean]

She is COMPLETELY intolerant of any children.
hers is 5 and if you went to her home, you would never know she had a child. he isnt allowed toys out other than 1 at a time in his room.
if he gets any thing like play doh as a present, or lego, she doesnt allow him to open it and takes it straight to the chrity shop unopened.
she hates my child and my other sisters child. tells them to shut up, screams in my nieces face and calls them fing cretins.
she looks at them with utter hatred and distaste.
i take dn and dn out quite alot, but ds stays in the car as she wont let us in the house if he is with me. so if i pick him up ds waits in the car while i collect him.
she sees dn every day and always says "if that were mine i would fing kill it"
as i keep my boy away from her, she does not get the opportunity to be abusive to him....not that i would allow it.
she is just evil and im waiting for the day when i will have to stand up to her if she is abusive to my boy OR if i hear her bieng abusive to dn or dn.

what to do?
(apart from bury her in my garden)

I would tell her that if she ever speaks to my child like that again that will be the last time she will ever see you and that whilst you will miss DN you are fairly certain that she will miss you taking him out for the day a whole lot more

I would have nothing more to do with her. What a savage vile person she is!

Speaking to her own kids like that is called child abuse. She should be reported.

is there anyone in your family who she listens to like your mum or an aunt? sounds slightly warped person to me.

What's the age difference between your children?

i could never be cut of from my nephew and quite frankly she wouldnt give a toss, she doesnt care who she upsets, her opinion is given and you can lump it if you dont like it.
she is one of them.

she would miss me taking her ds off tho as it is frequent and usually for the whole day and he loves me because i let him play and make noise.

why does your other sister allow her to have access to this woman?
just be gratefull your DN goes to school and has teh chance to play and be free there.

she sounds horrid

hers is 5 my niece is 4 so is my ds.

she just screams at my mum if she says any thing to piss her off, she is quite abusive to any one that crosses her.

Can you go tell her you've noticed she seems to be really unhappy recently, and does she think she needs to see someone before it gets any more out of hand? You could try to be really caring about her bad behaviour to see if she feels any shame.

Or you could kidnap her child and run far far away.

(If only that were legal)

just want to get an argument ready for the day i have to face it!

I'd feel the urge to thump her one. Especially with the comments she makes.

Phone NSPCC for advice. If that is how she speaks to her child in your presence, heaven knows what goes on behind closed doors.

does her son ever say about his life with her? tho he prob thinks her behaviour is normal.

Thank goodness he has you to look out for him x

God, she sounds like a nutter, sorry

he apears to be quite a happy little chap when with her.However,
he is quiet and a bit sulky and cries very easily.
not with me tho.
he is bright, chatty boystrous and very very loving.
she is like this because of our upbringing.
not an excuse though because i had the same upbringing but i adore my niece and nephew, i love the bones of them.
she is a clone of my mother, unfortunately this is how my mother was with us. needless to say, she should never have had us.

She needs help. Seriously. Does she have depression? Her poor poor son.

I would say please don't have any contact with her but for the sake of her son, please keep in touch because he sounds like he suffers a lot.

She needs to see someone. It's terrible what she's saying and doing.

hm possibly depression.
but she wont have it.
she is into herbal shite so wont even contemplate ads.
think she is on st johns wort for pmt.
does nowt tho.

She is obviously a very disturbed woman and avoid a row if you can because she will not see that she is in the wrong at all, people like this rarely do. Be there for your nephew because I imagine he will need you one day!

actually legoleila that is the approach that i take with her, you know "are you ok, you seem a bit down" type thing and she responds well to this. she makes some effort with my boy, in that she doesnt scream in his face or bark orders at him like she does my niece.

this i think is why we have never fallen out.
she is ok with me mostly.

She sounds poisonous! Have you said to her that she behaves like your mother did? Do you think she would be responsive to this?

Forgot to say, well done for managing to rise above it for the sake of your nephew. It sounds like he'd be lost without you.