Was doing okay but now feeling depressed 16 months after breakup

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Just that really. It was a relationship of several years and a very bad breakup (one that i didn't want at all).

I feel like a fool for feeling this way.

I was heartbroken for a long time but didn't feel down and depressed. I'm over the heartbreak now but feeling really down, no interest in my usual hobbies, letting myself and the upkeep of my home go, just a general feeling of can't be bothered doing anything. I'm mid 40s, feel like life is passing me by.

Can anyone relate and offer hope?

Yes I can certainly relate - bereavement over 4 years ago, of course it was a huge event and affected everything, but I wasn't depressed as such. Since the 4th anniversary things went downhill and life got very difficult. Better since I started antidepressants a few weeks ago.

When they say emotions don't follow a timetable- they really don't.

I hope you find a way forward again.

Hopeful for a little more advice maybe

It sounds like you may be depressed.
You have stopped caring for yourself and environment.

Have you considered therapy, some cbt or something to move you on from this rut/space?
Get some joie de vivre back.