I am venting because this really is (as my user name suggests) the final nail in the coffin of my relationship.
So for the longest time now, my partner has really started to piss me off, quite frankly. He talks at me for over an hour most days after he finishes work, emotionally unloading and talking about SaLeS dEaLs. I do the same job as him and it can be stressful at times, but I leave it at the door and choose to enjoy the fraction of daylight that remains once I’ve left the office.
I have been thinking of leaving for a while for many reasons, but most notably because of his lack of emotional intelligence, his nature to just talk at me and never listen when I speak back or have an issue. His attempt at comforting me was almost laughable yesterday when I was talking to him about my sister going through a hard time with her son and I was feeling stressed for her and his response was ‘aw, you’ve done so well though haven’t you.’ What an earth does that even mean? He just filled the silence with empty, shoddy words because he wasn’t remotely present with what I was saying. Anyway. He does nice things for me but is full of passive aggression because he is incapable of communicating his authentic feelings. He will sulk and go quiet if he doesn’t agree with something and retreat to playing some infuriating Tetris game on his phone which is giving me the ick.
Tonight, he made a reference to expecting sex after I’ve been unwell with Covid the last few days and I awkwardly laughed and then picked up my drink, and caught him rolling his eyes at me with an expression of utter contempt. I asked him why he had rolled his eyes at me and his response was that he didn’t roll his eyes, he was ‘doing that thing, you know, where people need to stretch their eyes frequently by looking upwards.’
As comical as this sounds, I actually cannot fathom spending any more years with someone who does something so blatant and will deny it because they are incapable of having any form of uncomfortable conversation.