Ex's new partner

[Missloveyou]

So I split up with my partner a couple of years ago, just as I found out I was pregnant. It was a rubbish relationship but he wanted to be involved with the baby and for us to raise it together.
Three weeks before baby was due he met someone and decided that it would be "easier" to be with her and he wanted to just cut all ties with baby and I....and that was the last I heard from him. Obviously he's not on the birth certificate and I don't claim any maintenance from him. I'm happy with that situation and I don't need or want money from him.
He lives local so I often see him about but today I seen him with his partner for the first time (the one he went off with before baby was born) and for some reason it really upset me! Just seeing them being all huggy and happy made me really sad.
I have absolutely no interest in the guy, not spoken to him in years, think he's a total scumbag...so why did this upset me?? Why did it bother me so much?
Can someone please talk some sense into me.

You dodged a bullet there! The guy is obviously a complete loser, abandoning his baby in that way. It’s normal to react the way you have, he’s all affectionate with his new partner, probably even more so because he spotted you and he’s making a show for your benefit. You and your baby are well off without him.

Maybe it's a biological reaction.

You are a feeling human, and he is an empty shell. Your reaction and feelings are normal. His are not. It is more astonishment and disgust than sadness, but having to see this person who should be so much a part of your lives under these circumstances is so out of the norm your brain doesn’t know how to label the emotion. I agree with the previous poster—you dodged a bullet.

@Cherrysoup Thanks for your reply. He's walked past my baby and I many times and just totally ignored us...and that's never bothered me so I was just shocked that seeing him with this woman upset me so much, especially after all this time.

You should apply for maintenance. Even if u don't need it. Even if he doesn't want to be involved he still has a financial responsibility. Over course of years those maintenance payments u could save and one day give to your child for a car purchase or house deposit.

@Iwantachange I totally understand what you're saying but I'm fortunate enough that I don't need money from him. He's aware that the baby exists and is his but has never asked to be put on the birth certificate or offered any money despite the fact he is a high earner (i know we don't talk but he could have instructed a lawyer to contact me)...so I'm not interested in anything from him.

Thanks for your help everyone x

Your child has the right to the added benefit of income from their other parent. It’s not a favour or a charity, it’s the right of your child.

Agree with this. Even if you put the money into a trust fund etc it could pay for university/house etc. You may be ok now financially but who knows about future changes...

Thanks xx