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Why am I triggered by seeing my ex narcissist with someone else

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Zsazxox · 16/07/2022 13:05

Hi everyone,

I'll try to give as much background information but I'll try keep it as brief as possible. I'd really appreciate any advice.

My son is 14 years old and I haven't been with his dad since he was 2 but we continued an on/off relationship after that until he was around 8 but I put a stop to it all because he was a narcissist who physically and mentally abused me. It was an awful co-dependent toxic relationship with a man who cheated on me many times so I was definitely better off without him.

I can honestly say I'm not pining after him or in love with him anymore and he has since got 2 girls pregnant and had more children despite not being a good father to my son. We no longer speak because he can not respect my boundaries so he sees my son through his grandma.

So a friend of mine follows a model on instagram and sent me some of her makeup pictures and I went on her story and noticed she had posted a picture of my sons dad! with the caption "So handsome!" Im not sure why this has triggered me so much but It's really made me angry and I don't even know want to be with him but I just feel really horrible and weird since seeing it and I can't seem to shake this feeling. When I e broke up I did drink to excess and never really got closure so I'm not sure if that why I feel this way but I really feel depressed and want to move past this feeling so any thoughts or advice would be much appreciated xx

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Fabswingers · 16/07/2022 14:03

How long have you not spoken to him for?

Are you more pissed off about the model calling him handsome or sad?

Zsazxox · 16/07/2022 14:33

We've not spoken in about a year I think it's more about him out on holiday with a model enjoying life and I've been feeling quite down and I'm still working through past traumas which still effect me now. Im not really sure why it's bothered me so much

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Zsazxox · 16/07/2022 14:34

I'm not pissed just more down and feel resentful and also it came as a bit of a shock because the last person I expected to see was him

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