What do you wish you'd known/done in your late 20s/early 30s?

[savebuckbeak]

Just that.

I wish I'd known my self-worth.

As for what I'd should have done, run very fast in the opposite direction away from my ex husband rather than marrying him!

Wish I’d had a baby

Concentrated more on getting a career

That this is still the start of your career in lots of ways and you will be a great success in your later 30s/40s/50s and meet a great guy/have a baby (ha, was less worried about the baby/man thing than my career!! In late 20s/early 30s was enjoying myself with lovely friends/fun with men just stagnating professionally!)

I wish I'd known that if I kept trying to do the next right thing and move myself forwards bit by bit that things would work out ok in the end and I would be happy. I wasted a lot of time worrying and questioning myself.

I wish I'd finished having my children then rather than in my late thirties.

There's no rush to move in together/get married/have a child. Or, you might not want to do any of that, and it's fine too.

I wished kissed more frogs before finding my prince too.

That I could afford to have more confidence in myself.

Don’t panic. You're still young. You don’t have to have it all sorted.

Thats what I’d tell myself at that age.

I’m mid 40s now and I can’t believe how much pressure I put on myself to do it all, be it all, have it all ….and all by some mythical cut off point in my head (for me it was 35).

I was self assured and fine. The one thing I remember was my friends worrying about was what men thought of them and always wanting boyfriends. I was mystified and remain so. I did very surprisingly end up happily married because I wasn’t bothered.

Saved more money and worries less about men.

To learn to accept myself sooner.
My path in life looks very different of what it’s
”supposed” to look like and always felt like an outsider and felt like I don’t belong here.
Wish I’d known sooner that we don’t all have to have the same life and those who take the path less traveled aren’t any less than the majority/conventional people are.

There was a time you could leave Ireland and be a nanny in the States through an agency , I wish I'd done that.
I'd no family support no savings and no confidence , I was living on a low wage in a crappy rental and stupidly I was worried about losing my flat . Maybe it would have ended in tears but sometimes I think I could be living in Manhattan right now. They had amnesties on green cards back then , this was in the 80s.
I do have a wonderful husband and home now but it took another 10+ years to find happiness.